There is a popular opinion, confirmed by experts, that first love and first (early) marriages – always fall apart. Why is that? Let’s try to find out.
To answer this question, I attracted a number of psychotherapeutic metaphors. And so, Metaphor One. “Dance”.
And now Music began to play … Is Dance important? Or is the partner important?
At some point, unearthly music begins to sound in the ears of a young creature. She orders him to dance. Someone calls this music hormones. Someone – “the stage of socialization through the search for a partner to create a family.” But this is boring. Let’s leave the metaphor of the Dance. Continue reading
Do not read popular female novels! In one overly popular female novel, I read one thought that was very harmful from my point of view. Here it is: “Yet they know that love alone is not enough, even very large. It is imperative that everyone still knows that you are loved and desired. ”
This was said in a fluent tone in the style of “everyone has long known that …”, and in that tone a harmful lie is usually thrown into the masses. Read a textbook of rhetoric, it’s just about that.
It turns out that love alone is not enough. It turns out that everyone needs to know that you are loved and desired.
I immediately asked the question: who needs to know everything?
After a short time, I myself gave an answer to it. Jungianism as old as the world … Person and Self. Continue reading
Do you know why people who hate to read grow out of curious, gifted, and cheerful little children? You can tell me about a dozen reasons that will make you feel longing and sitting on online forums. Do not. I will tell you a simple secret. It has nothing to do with speed reading techniques and other diagonals.
Even adults who are accustomed to reading cannot read books correctly.
Reading them made a dirty impulse that had nothing to do with joy – the habit of perfectionism. Remember the Sunday school boy Tom Sawyer attended? The boy who the whole prayer book memorized in order to distinguish himself in front of an evil teacher with a rod, and immediately went crazy? We are not talking about reading such a book. We are about reading that brings Joy.
They cannot learn how to receive joy from life, let alone reading. Before telling you a secret, I digress aside and give an example in the subject. Continue reading