Bravo my dear
“It’s not you who decides where we are going. Parents decide, ”the French are strict in raising their children. The authority of the elders is unshakable. A child is not…

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Five languages of love
In fact, of course, there are much more of them than the author of the popular books on psychology, Harry Chapman, singled out. But if you do not remember in…

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Gaseous people
In nature, a substance exists in three states: in solid, liquid, and in gaseous. (There is still plasma, but to present this in the logic of my metaphor is already…

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Reinforcement in parenting

Reinforcement is a prerequisite for any learning and training. The main rule: “What we reinforce is what we get.”

When parents approach the child, they reinforce the behavior that the child is doing at this time. If parents approach a small child when he smiles, take him in his arms when he reaches for them, talk with him when he walks with them – they will bring up a calm, cheerful, positive and loving child. If parents are very busy and approach the child only when he screams or describes himself, they educate someone who will cry and write more and more often.

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How to attract a husband to raise a child

My children were interesting to me even before birth, I prepared as seriously as possible for their birth. However, more often, children under 3 years old are really not very interested: men are interested in raising children, not just raising them. Just messing with the children is not theirs; they are more often carried away by the role of the Model and Teacher. Yes, they help little at this time, and if this is accompanied by reproaches, the young dad will continue to stay away from the child. But if an intelligent woman emphasizes that her husband does not deal with the child as often as she does, but is much wiser than her, she knows how to stop crying, whims and tantrums, in which case the man will want to engage in education faster. Women, be wise Suns! Continue reading

How to build sensible obedience through an initiative

In this article, we summarize the research conducted by us, teachers at the Escalibur Camp camps. For several years now, we have been changing shifts in our children’s camps. One of the key questions that is important when communicating and working with children is how to make them interested in doing something. How can parents and educators create interest and involvement in a child? This is what we, teachers, have come to on the basis of experience gained over almost a dozen shifts.

As you probably already guessed, this article will discuss the differences between such concepts of raising a child as obedience and initiative. On the one hand, each parent wants to see his daughter or his son obedient, disciplined. On the other hand, in order to be successful in a future life, it would be good for the child to be active and proactive. Under a lying stone, water does not flow, right? Continue reading

I have older children taking care of younger ones

I raised two sons, they already have three children each, and the most important rule in the family was: the older ones take care of the younger ones, and the younger ones obey the older ones. Roma is the youngest, and I always told him that his elder brother is the most important person for him, he should obey him like mom and dad, grandparents. And the eldest, Vadim, when we were left alone, always told how to behave, so that his younger brother respected him. Vadima never scolded under Roma, took care of his authority. But Roma did not have to scold, because to deal with him – this was the work of Vadim.
I loved communicating with my sons and tried to find games that would be of interest to them and useful to the family. The war game turned out to be very successful: I was usually a commander, and Vadim, as Continue reading

When the baby commands, or how to react to the children’s cry, oh and crying

Elena asks:

Good day! I’ve read many articles already, but I don’t find a suitable one … Help, please. Second child, daughter 1 year 4 months. Her behavior torments everyone, including herself. She, as it were, chooses a “friend” for herself and does not see or hear anyone else. If I (mom) are nearby, then this is definitely me. If I am not, then it can be any adult: dad, grandmother, grandfather, uncle … But someone alone. And to this “friend” kapets! She doesn’t leave the room (nor the toilet, will yell under the door; neither drink nor leave), she constantly “monitors” – in a second she will already notice that she has left. She doesn’t want to get up, she immediately asks for her hands, and if she immediately sits down, then she no longer needs her in her hands. If you tell her that you are going out, then here, with luck, as a rule, the horr begins with Continue reading

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