Five languages of love
In fact, of course, there are much more of them than the author of the popular books on psychology, Harry Chapman, singled out. But if you do not remember in…

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Gaseous people
In nature, a substance exists in three states: in solid, liquid, and in gaseous. (There is still plasma, but to present this in the logic of my metaphor is already…

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What we take for love
There is such a famous joke. An elderly professor returns home after a visit to the doctor and tells his wife: “Darling, what you and I have considered orgasm our…

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unhurried observations

Children know everything, but do not. What to do?

This article is addressed to those parents who are not indifferent to their children and are thinking about how to properly educate them. Throughout my parenting experience (I have three children, 4, 7 and 9 years old), I have been collecting bit by bit information about education – books, the Internet, and stories of experienced parents.
Gradually, I accumulated a solid baggage of knowledge, techniques and practical experience in interacting with children. Mostly it worked well, but sometimes there were crashes that I could not figure out. In this article I want to talk about one very important discovery that happened to me after attending a training for parents.

I came to the training with a fair amount of skepticism. By that time, I had a feeling that I knew about Continue reading

The whole truth about people suffering from addictions and their loved ones

The topic of addictions is one of the most painful topics. Families in which this problem exists is not a joke. But science, psychology does not stand still, it develops, then it is science, in order to make new discoveries based on unhurried observations.

And in the last decade an almost revolutionary discovery has been made – the main problem is not created by the addicts themselves – they are just the ill-fated “obviously guilty”, on which it is convenient and logical to blame all possible accusations … The main problem is created by the independent, but the dependent, then there are their close people.

Now in the science of psychology, a person who suffers from the fact that someone close to him is ill with one or another addiction, such a person is closely regarded by psychologists as the most important patient in need of treatment in the first place.

Notice, not the drug addict needs treatment in the first place, but his “old sick mother with her lips blue Continue reading

Marriage ... Positive reframing
I’ll briefly recall what “positive reframing” is. Reframing is the brainchild of Peseshkian's positive psychotherapy, as well as behavioral psychotherapy and NLP. Reframing is such a purely linguistic (verbal) operation…

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The secret of raising a child winner: once again about the main thing
Initially, a comic test of psychology. Do you know the fairy tale “Golden Key” by Alexei Tolstoy? If you answered no, then you do not exist. Well, if the fairy…

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Mother? Or a woman?
The psychological mistake of changing roles: modern women, building relationships with the chosen man, try to become a real Woman for their man, and become a real Mother or psychological…

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How to educate schoolchildren
Our hero is known as the pioneer of practical psychology for a Russian audience. Doctor of Psychology, Professor Nikolai Ivanovich Kozlov has been managing the Sinton training center, the oldest…

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