Reinforcement in parenting
Reinforcement is a prerequisite for any learning and training. The main rule: “What we reinforce is what we get.” When parents approach the child, they reinforce the behavior that the…

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When a child lies to you
There are children who are inclined to lie, and there are children who are not inclined to lie. It seems that in many ways they are born like this: it…

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Persuasion is a waste of time
Marina, my wife and I, go to the park, and there is a stall from the church where they sell all kinds of prayed buns, etc. The tea is good…

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Developmental Psychology and the Divide and Conquer Principle

My friend, a psychologist-colleague, sitting at someone else’s group seminar as a “supervision”, whispered to me somehow whimsically-pouted in my ear (as he generally likes to do this):

“I don’t understand why they all keep their … age flocks? Is there something sad and wretchedly cheap about that, can you not? ”

Somehow, I immediately understood very well what he was talking about, although he did not try to be clear …

Moreover, I also realized that I myself, it turns out, am thinking about the same problem and clearly see it. (More precisely, my subconscious mind thinks – how the smartphone is quietly downloading updates) Continue reading

The secret of raising a child winner: once again about the main thing

Initially, a comic test of psychology. Do you know the fairy tale “Golden Key” by Alexei Tolstoy? If you answered no, then you do not exist. Well, if the fairy tale “Golden Key” is familiar to you, then why haven’t you still extracted the main moral from it? “What is the main moral?” You ask.

And the main morality is reduced to the answer to the question of how to raise a winner in your child, without having any material means. Few of us can boast that at his cradle stood a dozen good fairies with valuable gifts at the ready. Who is Paris Hilton here? Raise your hands. Who needs Paris Hilton at all! Pinocchio’s wooden boy is another matter – it’s more interesting with him, isn’t it? And we all can learn how he emerged victorious from a deliberately losing story. Continue reading

Learning problems

This art-therapeutic technique is least of all oriented towards schoolchildren and students who have low motivation to receive education and good grades.
This art-therapeutic technique is understood by the term “training”, training in the broadest (and add – high) sense, and works the same way – broadly. So, to a greater extent, this psychotherapeutic technique concerns adults and their reluctance to Learn, to be Open to Life Lessons, and so on.

But do not rush to be disappointed, dear parents of complex children and teachers of complex students!

Having worked with this technique yourself, you will understand something that will give you an approach to your children who do not remember a paragraph on geography. After all, the question (I Continue reading

Marriage ... Positive reframing
I’ll briefly recall what “positive reframing” is. Reframing is the brainchild of Peseshkian's positive psychotherapy, as well as behavioral psychotherapy and NLP. Reframing is such a purely linguistic (verbal) operation…

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Persuasion is a waste of time
Marina, my wife and I, go to the park, and there is a stall from the church where they sell all kinds of prayed buns, etc. The tea is good…

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Tram People
Most recently, I met one amazing book. This is a practical guide to psychology, written not for scientists and psychology students, but for ordinary people. Simple, but not simple. Because…

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How to read books
Do you know why people who hate to read grow out of curious, gifted, and cheerful little children? You can tell me about a dozen reasons that will make you…

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