Remember, reading this list, that all these “typical answers” are the exact opposite of the so-called ACTIVE LISTENING, the only type of communication between people who are alarmed by something, which in psychology and pedagogy is considered and called psychologically competent. Everything else is psychological illiteracy and provoking a permanent conflict – up to the severance of any relationship …
So, forbidden parental (read: and not only parental) reactions to the interlocutor (child).
Automatic answer of parent No. 1
Order or team
“Stop it,” “Shut up,” “Sleep,” “So that I don’t hear this again,” “Take it away.” Continue reading
The great psychotherapist Carl Rogers made a very big contribution to the development of not only his industry – psychology, but also managed to greatly change our world.
Do you agree that from century to century our world becomes more humane, it becomes easier, more pleasant to live in? Well, did you even notice that criminals are now not executed in the square, and corporal punishment has been abolished in schools, children specially hired for this are not being whipped with rods?
So, the world is changing for the better not “by itself”, as “by itself” spring comes in nature. The world is always changing for the better through the efforts of individual, lonely-standing people, whom no one is helping at this moment, but also hindering.
I called these people lonely because often, their friends, teachers and like-minded people are only books Continue reading
They say that children can’t forbid anything … (These are humanists and “Spokovites”)
They say that children should be kept in tight rein. (These are traditionalists).
Let them say … We will not interfere in the conversations of the townsfolk, we will turn to a high psychological theory and listen to what it tells us about the problem of parental prohibitions.
Everything is very simple. There are only three types of parental prohibitions in terms of psychology. And they are all harmful.
Of course, everything must be approached wisely and understood – what is really meant when it comes to Continue reading