Throw a bowl of cookies!
I speak with parents of preschool children and even older children: almost every first one mentions “problems with feeding” or “does not eat normal food”. Moreover, the children are different:…

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Marriage ... Positive reframing
I’ll briefly recall what “positive reframing” is. Reframing is the brainchild of Peseshkian's positive psychotherapy, as well as behavioral psychotherapy and NLP. Reframing is such a purely linguistic (verbal) operation…

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Children know everything, but do not. What to do?
This article is addressed to those parents who are not indifferent to their children and are thinking about how to properly educate them. Throughout my parenting experience (I have three…

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Mother? Or a woman?

The psychological mistake of changing roles: modern women, building relationships with the chosen man, try to become a real Woman for their man, and become a real Mother

or psychological mistake of role reversal

Psychologists say that women themselves, with their own hands, are able to fatally destroy their personal happiness even at the foundation stage, while thinking that they behave well and act according to the instructions …

In all the variety of psychological errors in relationships (which both women and men make), I want to single out one often made by women and talk about it.

Psychologists give such a metaphor for ideal relationships: “In ideal harmonious relationships, as in ballroom dancing, one partner always leads, and the second follows him closely!” Continue reading

“There are no worthy men”

This psychological material is devoted to debunking the popular myth that there are no worthy men and other similarly structured formulations of myths that distract a person from the feat of self-improvement

Once the writer Maria Arbatova spoke very capaciously and to the point:

“When a woman says that there are no worthy men on the horizon, this is not a problem of their absence, but of her psychology. There are always more worthy men than you can fall in love with in one life.”

I remembered this thought, because it reminded me of another, expressed by Boris Pasternak and on a different, much more general reason: Continue reading

When does Mature Love come?

There is a popular opinion, confirmed by experts, that first love and first (early) marriages – always fall apart. Why is that? Let’s try to find out.

To answer this question, I attracted a number of psychotherapeutic metaphors. And so, Metaphor One. “Dance”.

And now Music began to play … Is Dance important? Or is the partner important?
At some point, unearthly music begins to sound in the ears of a young creature. She orders him to dance. Someone calls this music hormones. Someone – “the stage of socialization through the search for a partner to create a family.” But this is boring. Let’s leave the metaphor of the Dance. Continue reading

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Instruction for the man (man)
Based on the basic, highly spiritual, we know that women expect from men - love, and men expect from women - RESPECT Oh, if people were issued instructions for use!…

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15 parenting tips
1. In order for parenting to become a pleasant, useful, and expedient process for you, you must initially determine the endpoint of parenting and designate it with three epithets. What…

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I have older children taking care of younger ones
I raised two sons, they already have three children each, and the most important rule in the family was: the older ones take care of the younger ones, and the…

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The whole truth about people suffering from addictions and their loved ones
The topic of addictions is one of the most painful topics. Families in which this problem exists is not a joke. But science, psychology does not stand still, it develops,…

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