Mistress-Self, Mistress-Person: Psychological exercise for Lovers
Do not read popular female novels! In one overly popular female novel, I read one thought that was very harmful from my point of view. Here it is: “Yet they…

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The baby cries: is it always necessary to twitch it?
In the beginning - briefly. What is the most important thing for mom? - Do not worry, get enough sleep and be calm. Do I need to be attentive to…

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Children know everything, but do not. What to do?
This article is addressed to those parents who are not indifferent to their children and are thinking about how to properly educate them. Throughout my parenting experience (I have three…

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Mother? Or a woman?

The psychological mistake of changing roles: modern women, building relationships with the chosen man, try to become a real Woman for their man, and become a real Mother

or psychological mistake of role reversal

Psychologists say that women themselves, with their own hands, are able to fatally destroy their personal happiness even at the foundation stage, while thinking that they behave well and act according to the instructions …

In all the variety of psychological errors in relationships (which both women and men make), I want to single out one often made by women and talk about it.

Psychologists give such a metaphor for ideal relationships: “In ideal harmonious relationships, as in ballroom dancing, one partner always leads, and the second follows him closely!” Continue reading

Marriage … Positive reframing

I’ll briefly recall what “positive reframing” is. Reframing is the brainchild of Peseshkian’s positive psychotherapy, as well as behavioral psychotherapy and NLP.

Reframing is such a purely linguistic (verbal) operation to reformulate one’s attitude to an event – from an unusually negative attitude to an unusually positive attitude. Reframing, therefore, provides a positive meaning in any event.

A special case of reframing is renaming. Some processes, things and phenomena need new “names”, as their old names carry a clearly negative meaning and are doomed from the very beginning.

This happens according to the principle – whatever you call a boat, it will sail. Continue reading

“There are no worthy men”

This psychological material is devoted to debunking the popular myth that there are no worthy men and other similarly structured formulations of myths that distract a person from the feat of self-improvement

Once the writer Maria Arbatova spoke very capaciously and to the point:

“When a woman says that there are no worthy men on the horizon, this is not a problem of their absence, but of her psychology. There are always more worthy men than you can fall in love with in one life.”

I remembered this thought, because it reminded me of another, expressed by Boris Pasternak and on a different, much more general reason: Continue reading

I have older children taking care of younger ones
I raised two sons, they already have three children each, and the most important rule in the family was: the older ones take care of the younger ones, and the…

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Parenting is easy, or the Golden Rules for Parents
The participants of our trainings asked us to collect the main thing that smart parents should remember and know. We smiled and wrote. If you are not only smart, but…

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For the wife - happiness. For a husband, misfortune ...
Throw three coins six times and write down the result. Eagle. Eagle. Tails are a long solid line. Tails. Tails. The eagle is an intermittent line symbolizing the female bosom.…

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The whole truth about people suffering from addictions and their loved ones
The topic of addictions is one of the most painful topics. Families in which this problem exists is not a joke. But science, psychology does not stand still, it develops,…

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