The baby cries: is it always necessary to twitch it?
In the beginning - briefly. What is the most important thing for mom? - Do not worry, get enough sleep and be calm. Do I need to be attentive to…

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Mistress-Self, Mistress-Person: Psychological exercise for Lovers
Do not read popular female novels! In one overly popular female novel, I read one thought that was very harmful from my point of view. Here it is: “Yet they…

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How to read books
Do you know why people who hate to read grow out of curious, gifted, and cheerful little children? You can tell me about a dozen reasons that will make you…

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How to plan your day for a preschooler?

When the child is still small, we parents plan everything for him. We set tasks for him, suggest the steps to be taken, give instructions on how to do it right, control the process.

This process can be outlined on paper in the form of a plan. If the child has not yet reached school age, then you can draw a plan, or make a fun application so that the kid understands what is required of him. Younger students partially cope with this task themselves, but to a greater extent need the help of their parents.

Why should a child instill a planning skill when everything is clear and understandable that the day is planned in advance? He attends kindergarten or school every day. Mom leads him to preparatory Continue reading

Marriage … Positive reframing

I’ll briefly recall what “positive reframing” is. Reframing is the brainchild of Peseshkian’s positive psychotherapy, as well as behavioral psychotherapy and NLP.

Reframing is such a purely linguistic (verbal) operation to reformulate one’s attitude to an event – from an unusually negative attitude to an unusually positive attitude. Reframing, therefore, provides a positive meaning in any event.

A special case of reframing is renaming. Some processes, things and phenomena need new “names”, as their old names carry a clearly negative meaning and are doomed from the very beginning.

This happens according to the principle – whatever you call a boat, it will sail. Continue reading

The whole truth about people suffering from addictions and their loved ones

The topic of addictions is one of the most painful topics. Families in which this problem exists is not a joke. But science, psychology does not stand still, it develops, then it is science, in order to make new discoveries based on unhurried observations.

And in the last decade an almost revolutionary discovery has been made – the main problem is not created by the addicts themselves – they are just the ill-fated “obviously guilty”, on which it is convenient and logical to blame all possible accusations … The main problem is created by the independent, but the dependent, then there are their close people.

Now in the science of psychology, a person who suffers from the fact that someone close to him is ill with one or another addiction, such a person is closely regarded by psychologists as the most important patient in need of treatment in the first place.

Notice, not the drug addict needs treatment in the first place, but his “old sick mother with her lips blue Continue reading

Gaseous people
In nature, a substance exists in three states: in solid, liquid, and in gaseous. (There is still plasma, but to present this in the logic of my metaphor is already…

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Marriage ... Positive reframing
I’ll briefly recall what “positive reframing” is. Reframing is the brainchild of Peseshkian's positive psychotherapy, as well as behavioral psychotherapy and NLP. Reframing is such a purely linguistic (verbal) operation…

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Parent Automatic Responses
Remember, reading this list, that all these “typical answers” ​​are the exact opposite of the so-called ACTIVE LISTENING, the only type of communication between people who are alarmed by something,…

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Since my friend is doing better, I will not at all!
one day my son (8 years old) returned from swimming training in a gloomy mood. I began to ask questions and found out that the whole thing was in a…

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