The topic of addictions is one of the most painful topics. Families in which this problem exists is not a joke. But science, psychology does not stand still, it develops, then it is science, in order to make new discoveries based on unhurried observations.
And in the last decade an almost revolutionary discovery has been made – the main problem is not created by the addicts themselves – they are just the ill-fated “obviously guilty”, on which it is convenient and logical to blame all possible accusations … The main problem is created by the independent, but the dependent, then there are their close people.
Now in the science of psychology, a person who suffers from the fact that someone close to him is ill with one or another addiction, such a person is closely regarded by psychologists as the most important patient in need of treatment in the first place.
Notice, not the drug addict needs treatment in the first place, but his “old sick mother with her lips blue Continue reading
Do you know why people who hate to read grow out of curious, gifted, and cheerful little children? You can tell me about a dozen reasons that will make you feel longing and sitting on online forums. Do not. I will tell you a simple secret. It has nothing to do with speed reading techniques and other diagonals.
Even adults who are accustomed to reading cannot read books correctly.
Reading them made a dirty impulse that had nothing to do with joy – the habit of perfectionism. Remember the Sunday school boy Tom Sawyer attended? The boy who the whole prayer book memorized in order to distinguish himself in front of an evil teacher with a rod, and immediately went crazy? We are not talking about reading such a book. We are about reading that brings Joy.
They cannot learn how to receive joy from life, let alone reading. Before telling you a secret, I digress aside and give an example in the subject. Continue reading
Do you have the right to yell at children when tearing off?
Reading my latest materials, you, the Reader, might think that I urge everyone to blow dust off their children.
After all, the basic truth of psychology: “all problems are from the wrong relations of mothers with a baby” and, in general, “carers with children”, it scares anyone you want to half to death.
Some in horror do not know where to take the next step in a relationship with their child … Continue reading