When the child is still small, we parents plan everything for him. We set tasks for him, suggest the steps to be taken, give instructions on how to do it right, control the process.
This process can be outlined on paper in the form of a plan. If the child has not yet reached school age, then you can draw a plan, or make a fun application so that the kid understands what is required of him. Younger students partially cope with this task themselves, but to a greater extent need the help of their parents.
Why should a child instill a planning skill when everything is clear and understandable that the day is planned in advance? He attends kindergarten or school every day. Mom leads him to preparatory Continue reading
I have been working at school with children of primary school age for more than 20 years. I have accumulated many different school stories about difficulties in raising children and ways to overcome these difficulties, which may be useful to parents, teachers, and psychologists.
I want to share one such story. She happened to a girl, let her name be Tanya, like the girl from the children’s poem Agnia Barto, who wept loudly.
Tanya came to school armed with 1000 and another 1 way of manipulation. Therefore, she did not develop friendly relations with classmates and with me. Why everyone suffered: I, and the children, and Tanya herself. Mom came to school and asked what was wrong, why the children did not want to be friends …
To make my life easier, I began to teach Tanya a little bit of rationalization and constructive Continue reading
I’ll briefly recall what “positive reframing” is. Reframing is the brainchild of Peseshkian’s positive psychotherapy, as well as behavioral psychotherapy and NLP.
Reframing is such a purely linguistic (verbal) operation to reformulate one’s attitude to an event – from an unusually negative attitude to an unusually positive attitude. Reframing, therefore, provides a positive meaning in any event.
A special case of reframing is renaming. Some processes, things and phenomena need new “names”, as their old names carry a clearly negative meaning and are doomed from the very beginning.
This happens according to the principle – whatever you call a boat, it will sail. Continue reading