I raised two sons, they already have three children each, and the most important rule in the family was: the older ones take care of the younger ones, and the younger ones obey the older ones. Roma is the youngest, and I always told him that his elder brother is the most important person for him, he should obey him like mom and dad, grandparents. And the eldest, Vadim, when we were left alone, always told how to behave, so that his younger brother respected him. Vadima never scolded under Roma, took care of his authority. But Roma did not have to scold, because to deal with him – this was the work of Vadim.
I loved communicating with my sons and tried to find games that would be of interest to them and useful to the family. The war game turned out to be very successful: I was usually a commander, and Vadim, as Continue reading
Preschoolers must always play role-playing and plot-role-playing games (the difference between these two concepts is well written here).
A role-playing game is like a “recipe”, not only for teaching writing, but for teaching effective communication. Agree, if the child had sufficient practice with copybooks, then he will write beautifully in clean rulers. Role games also work. If the child has had sufficient role-playing practice, then:
it’s easy for a child to figure out what to do with himself,
it will be easier for the child in the lessons at school: he will be happy to participate in dramatization in the lessons of literature, English, in team games in physical education, Continue reading
So, the situation with your child is at an impasse. You no longer know what to do – nothing helps. You have already explained to him a thousand times, “they talked in a good way,” you tried to agree, and even on the advice of some psychologist “wrote a contract and hung it on the wall” (it was about the fact that he takes out the trash every day, does his homework and sits on the computer no more than two hours a day). Once you could not stand it and smashed his phone against the wall, and he threw a glass of pencils at you … Deadlock. Nothing helps!
Then and just then – the “two-step technique” from the yard of my childhood.
– The situation is at an impasse! – you acknowledge and declare. – I did this and that, it does not help, and we all see it! It only gets worse and worse! Therefore, for starters, I just stop doing everything that I did Continue reading