The topic of addictions is one of the most painful topics. Families in which this problem exists is not a joke. But science, psychology does not stand still, it develops, then it is science, in order to make new discoveries based on unhurried observations.
And in the last decade an almost revolutionary discovery has been made – the main problem is not created by the addicts themselves – they are just the ill-fated “obviously guilty”, on which it is convenient and logical to blame all possible accusations … The main problem is created by the independent, but the dependent, then there are their close people.
Now in the science of psychology, a person who suffers from the fact that someone close to him is ill with one or another addiction, such a person is closely regarded by psychologists as the most important patient in need of treatment in the first place.
Notice, not the drug addict needs treatment in the first place, but his “old sick mother with her lips blue Continue reading
This psychological material is devoted to debunking the popular myth that there are no worthy men and other similarly structured formulations of myths that distract a person from the feat of self-improvement
Once the writer Maria Arbatova spoke very capaciously and to the point:
“When a woman says that there are no worthy men on the horizon, this is not a problem of their absence, but of her psychology. There are always more worthy men than you can fall in love with in one life.”
I remembered this thought, because it reminded me of another, expressed by Boris Pasternak and on a different, much more general reason: Continue reading
There is a popular opinion, confirmed by experts, that first love and first (early) marriages – always fall apart. Why is that? Let’s try to find out.
To answer this question, I attracted a number of psychotherapeutic metaphors. And so, Metaphor One. “Dance”.
And now Music began to play … Is Dance important? Or is the partner important?
At some point, unearthly music begins to sound in the ears of a young creature. She orders him to dance. Someone calls this music hormones. Someone – “the stage of socialization through the search for a partner to create a family.” But this is boring. Let’s leave the metaphor of the Dance. Continue reading