How to build sensible obedience through an initiative
In this article, we summarize the research conducted by us, teachers at the Escalibur Camp camps. For several years now, we have been changing shifts in our children's camps. One…

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Mistress-Self, Mistress-Person: Psychological exercise for Lovers
Do not read popular female novels! In one overly popular female novel, I read one thought that was very harmful from my point of view. Here it is: “Yet they…

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Marriage ... Positive reframing
I’ll briefly recall what “positive reframing” is. Reframing is the brainchild of Peseshkian's positive psychotherapy, as well as behavioral psychotherapy and NLP. Reframing is such a purely linguistic (verbal) operation…

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changing roles

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What to do so that parental exactingness does not cause a child to protest?

The fact that parental exactingness is necessary, reasonable people understand, but many have a justifiable fear: Will the exactingness of parents cause a negative result in the long term? There are reasons for concern: there are frequent cases when children, having escaped from parental care and pressure, start off “in all serious ways.” At first glance, this seems logical: demanding is pressure, pressure causes protest. And when the children enter an independent life, they begin to catch up with everything that was previously forbidden for them and violate everything that their parents inspired them.

Yes, it happens that children, having escaped from the parental family, seem to forget what they were taught! They stop making bed and go unkempt in the morning, start to stay up late and get up late, eat Continue reading

Parenting is easy, or the Golden Rules for Parents

The participants of our trainings asked us to collect the main thing that smart parents should remember and know. We smiled and wrote. If you are not only smart, but also with a sense of humor, you should like these rules.
First, the main thing:

It’s easy to raise children if you are smart, and three or more children. It is always more difficult to raise two or one children. Make the right decisions!
Children must be dealt with by the children themselves. The system is simple: any junior obeys any senior. Each senior is fully and always responsible for any junior. All! Continue reading

Since my friend is doing better, I will not at all!

one day my son (8 years old) returned from swimming training in a gloomy mood. I began to ask questions and found out that the whole thing was in a friend. A friend achieved some outstanding results during training. The coach praised a friend. My son in that training was not even able to get close to the success of a friend. This was a real blow for his son.
As a result, the child made the following conclusion: I won’t go swimming anymore. It’s unpleasant to listen to the coach praising someone, and not you. A friend in everything is better than me, oh why so. How miserable I am, etc.

I confess that I reacted incorrectly at first. I got hooked on the topic of envy. I began to convince my son that “your friend is not better in everything,” that you will succeed too. The son listened to it all with a Continue reading

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I have older children taking care of younger ones
I raised two sons, they already have three children each, and the most important rule in the family was: the older ones take care of the younger ones, and the…

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Parental bans
They say that children can’t forbid anything ... (These are humanists and “Spokovites”) They say that children should be kept in tight rein. (These are traditionalists). Let them say ...…

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How to raise a successful person (E. Wojdicki)
When we learned that Mom was publishing a book, we decided that it was for us, her children, to write a preface about how it feels when your mother is…

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Family Psychology
Family psychology, relationship psychology explains: what is love, what is falling in love, what is a relationship of addiction, what is the search for the ideal partner, and what is…

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