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The baby cries: is it always necessary to twitch it?

In the beginning – briefly.

What is the most important thing for mom? – Do not worry, get enough sleep and be calm.
Do I need to be attentive to the crying baby? – Yes, of course.
Do parents need to be afraid that the baby is crying? – No, it’s not scary.
Do you believe crying baby? – Yes, babies do not cry in vain.
Do you always need to respond to a baby crying? – Not at all. Yes, he may want something, but his parents may have other plans.
Is it necessary to wean a baby from night crying? – Yes, gradually.
What else do you need to take care of? – About not to accustom the baby to crying.
And now about all this – in more detail.

From the crying of a child, novice mothers, whose first child is jerking and worrying. The more experienced the mother, the more she fed the children, the calmer and more philosophical she is about the crying of the child. An experienced mother listens more carefully to crying, better understands the crying of the child, but twitches less from him. Maybe this is the most important quality of an experienced mother – her calm, her confidence that the main thing is to get enough sleep for herself and not to worry in vain. When mom slept and feels well, then the child will be fine.

To be afraid that the child is crying is not necessary. Crying and crying does not harm the baby’s health, but rather contributes to it. This is good gymnastics for the lungs and vocal cords, and the child’s loud, demanding cry suggests that everything is in order.
At the same time, it is necessary to be attentive to crying, because it is through crying that the child tells parents about his needs. If a mother is attentive and knows that even a baby knows how to cry differently, depending on what he needs or bothers him, then he and the child will perfectly understand each other.

More often cry children who catch a cold and get sick. Begin to temper the children – they will not hurt and will cry less. I dipped my children in ice water from birth, they practically did not hurt anything. Additionally: children do not like to be changed: at least they put on something, at least something is removed from them. If you have tempered children, crawl without everything and sleep under the same diaper, they will be healthy and calm.

It is better if the baby will sleep next to you until six months, but still in a separate bed. Mine slept in a cradle, which I made myself: unlike a bed, which you are tormented with swinging at night, you could swing it with your finger, because I hung it on vacuum rubber. It’s okay if once you lull him on your chest, but then it’s better to put him in your crib: let him get used to sleeping at home, and you’d better get enough sleep.
A child’s night sleep (and night crying) is a separate and important topic. If your baby sleeps restlessly at night and constantly asks for breasts, most likely he does not ask for breasts at all, but for water, and he is suffocated. Walk the baby a little more during the day, bathe him several times a day, ventilate the room at night, and at night give him water, not chest, and he will sleep more calmly. And most importantly, you start to sleep.
So: if you acted initially not quite right and taught the child to sleep next to you in your bed, it is natural that the child will protest when you want to excommunicate him. Learn to distinguish night crying from what the child described or thirsty from crying-protest: “I want it like I used to!”. If you do not have plans for your child to get used to leading the life of your family, and not you – wean the baby from such night crying.

How? Just don’t react.
The woman said: At the age of 1 month, the daughter was ill with bronchitis. During the illness, the child realized that mom immediately flies to the sound of khe-khe, and began to use it. If my daughter really wanted to talk with me, and at night I didn’t react to whimpers, then she began to loudly “khekhekat”. I, sleepy, flew up to her, and she smiles sweetly at me and expects me to play with her … I decided not to reinforce this nightly behavior, stopped responding to “khe-khe”, and everything was fine.
Another story from a smart mom.

When my daughter was 5-6 months old, she mixed up day and night. And every night my husband and I rode around the apartment in her arms. As soon as we put her in the crib, she immediately began to scream and cry, as soon as they took her in her arms, she immediately calmed down. After reading Dr. Spock’s book, my husband and I decided to conduct the experiment described in the book. It was said there that, before going to bed, one should wish the child good night, kiss and leave the room without reacting to his crying. On the first day, the child will cry for 20 minutes. On the second day 15. Then – 10. And then it will stop crying before bedtime at all. We did just that. Sitting at the nursery door we held each other so as not to rush into the room at the heartbreaking cries. After 19 minutes, I decided that nothing would help and was going to rush to the child, but my husband kept me. After exactly 20 minutes, the child calmed down. When we looked into the room, my daughter slept peacefully. Then everything was like a book. On the second day, crying lasted 15 minutes. Then – 10 minutes. And then my daughter stopped crying before bedtime at all.

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