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For the wife – happiness. For a husband, misfortune …

Throw three coins six times and write down the result. Eagle. Eagle. Tails are a long solid line. Tails. Tails. The eagle is an intermittent line symbolizing the female bosom. The six traits drawn by the fortuneteller from the bottom – up (how to build a house), depending on the predominance of eagles and the tails of the coins that have fallen, are called a hexagram, from a hex – “six” and a gram – “I write”.

There are sixty-four in all. Sixty-four possible states of the universe – so simple …

But this is just an illusion that there are sixty-four of them, by the way. Connoisseurs of hexagrams assure that it is beyond human power to count their correct number, since at the time of divination (as at any other moment of being) one hexagram is always in action and, therefore, elusive.

The famous fairy-tale therapist and psychodramatist Dmitry Sokolov believes that in the social world the hexagram No. 32 “Constancy” corresponds to the concept of “middle class”, and in terms of age – to the age of a little over thirty. This is when a person has already achieved a lot, found his way in life and psychologically … almost died …

Why so sad?
The fact is that constancy (as most sages and simply people striving for knowledge of the world of people think), and so, constancy – contradicts the Cosmos, which is – Dynamics.

In the course of life changes, constancy is an almost impossible situation. This is an illusion that people create for themselves, and from it they perish.

I Ching (“Book of Changes”) does not throw out this “practically impossible situation”, finds a place for it in its structure. But how bitter and sad the comments on this hexagram are!

The central commentary-prediction of hexagram No. 32 is as follows:

“There is no game on the field”
And immediately add:

“For the wife – happiness. For a husband, misfortune. ”
I believe that the meaning of these ancient and dark comments is nevertheless clear to any normal person without religious scholars and Sinologists.

Constancy is a necessary thing. But in large doses – harmful. Something like this, in old private houses somewhere in the closet a dark dusty bottle with rat poison is surely stored. And what to do with it – only the one who manages the house — a woman knows.

Constancy is intended to be “stored” and “maintained”.

A woman is intended for “storage” and “maintenance.” (Try to argue with me, madam feminists!)

They (Woman and Persistence) will find a common language. Constancy to the woman fit and more affordable. Let’s just say – it does not destroy it, moreover, it is in it – it blooms …

But what happens at this moment with a man?

A man, created by nature for search, battle, hunting, and, in general, Life Beyond the Boundary of the House, having “drunk” on Constancy, is a very miserable sight.

Ranks, positions, loans, mutual obligations, the good reputation of “his boyfriend” in professional, business, secular and criminal circles – all these “socially stabilizing factors” are psychologically deadening at the same time.

Man ceases to belong to himself.

Whatever he buys and whatever he seeks, he buys and does not seek for himself. At the cost of, however, his own (and not some strangers) forces …

The clothes that he now wears
the watch that clung to his hand
the car in which he is sitting
the hotel to which he is being taken
someone else’s woman who calls herself “his wife”,
and the children whom he somehow inconspicuously procreated for himself, it is unclear why,
all this was bought and achieved, but does not bring joy – like the very famous “fake Christmas tree decorations” …

Misunderstanding of these simple things, all psychologists, without saying a word, harshly called – “dullness in the psychological plane.”

What do all “normal people” want? They want constancy. They want what the Universe does not have; of what she cannot give, with all her desire.

But as they say, our dreams are overheard by the Enemy of the Human race and are in a hurry to fulfill them – in their own way.

From here, from the office where this unscrupulous deal is being made, thirty-year-old little-bellied boys with an extinct look are taken, drinking beer and talking about work, looking at which you can only notice one thing: “They already have everything in the past” …

Stupidity in a psychological sense (writes Dmitry Sokolov) can be combined with any high IQ …

So what is it – stupidity in a psychological sense?
This desire is constancy. This desire is to “be normal” …
What features does this show in the picture of life?

stupid in the psychological sense, a person wants to prevent such Meanings that are incomprehensible to his Consciousness;
he wants Death not to exist;
he wants the Wolf not to be in fairy tales and protects his children from such fairy tales. (that is why his children, having matured a little, begin to overeat themselves with “horror films”);
he wants to avoid Loneliness and hides his own loneliness under the dirty rags of false social contacts,

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