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Instruction for the man (man)

Based on the basic, highly spiritual, we know that women expect from men – love, and men expect from women – RESPECT
Oh, if people were issued instructions for use!

Although … what am I talking about? Indeed, only as much as people traditionally do not read “preface in books”, they “traditionally” do not understand “instructions in boxes”.

This condition is called, by the way, “functional illiteracy.” And your humble servant suffers from it no less than the described by her “spiteful and not far average average man”, to the address of which the Author traditionally draws his notations, saturated with the desire to be equal in style with Radishchev and … youthful maximalism …

However, people still issue instructions for use, and this machine is called your mother … Oh, no … Stop. It bore me wrong …

And this instruction (to the person), friends, is called Literature on Psychology.

Therefore, occasionally you need to look into it. Well, at least occasionally. And carefully read the paragraph. What we do in this article.

So I write all the time about complicated things. “And, in fact, why?” – thought somehow? After all, the bulk of the problems (and serious problems!) Arise in our life from ignorance or unwillingness to understand the very basics. And not from the fact that we do not know what the “Zeigarnik effect” is …

You need to write about simple things. Well, at least occasionally. What am I doing today.

For example … does the Dear Reader know what Men expect from Women and Women from Men? Only seriously – that is, “basic-highly spiritual.”

But everything is very simple …

Attention Reader!

Women expect from men – love (well, this is understandable to a fool).

But what men expect from women is unknown to many ladies.

And men are waiting for women – RESPECT.

How is this realized in simple life?

In simple life, this is implemented as follows:

When Mother loves her Child, what is it for her? It is for her the most beautiful! So a woman for a man is the most beautiful. (This is about love)
Now for respect. Let us remember once and for all one word that DO NOT be spoken to a man. This is the word FOOL. Not only this word, but everything that hints at it – gestures, attitudes, behavior, style of relationship …
Call a woman a “fool” and she will not be offended. A fool is a kind of compliment. “The beauty of that fool” … But hint to the man that he is a fool and you will lose him forever.

Ladies, if you want to praise your man, do not sing to him what kind of beautiful hair he has, nails, eyes, ears, eyelashes, toes … Come to your senses! You are not talking to a girlfriend!

For him, this story is the same as hearing from your beloved guy something like: “Wow, how she solves the problems of matanalysis!” Or “And she drunk Vasya himself as she drinks!” …

From such “compliments” I want to urgently reevaluate my whole life to understand what you were wrong about and sobbed into your pillow for a long time …

So men don’t need to tell how they look like a darling actor from the series “Rich and Famous” by bending their neck.

In a man, one needs to value the mind and abilities of a leader. (Even if both of them are still in its infancy). And you admit, you also immediately found your individual style and learned to wear stockings instead of tights? Not? Is the time gone? That’s just the same!

I will quote a capacious and true thought from the endless discourse on the “psychology of relations”:

“When you show UNCONDITIONAL respect for a man, you get his UNCONDITIONAL love.”

Some wives complain that they have not received any manifestations of love from their husbands for a long time … And how long have they shown their RESPECT to their partners?

Let me remind you, we are talking about the UNCONDITIONAL manifestation of feeling.

That is: without conditions such as: “I – so, only when and if you – like that.”

An example of unconditional love is the Almighty’s love for people and mother’s love for a child.

As they say in Russia: “The Virgin Mary prays for all sinners before Christ.” But because she is a mother and she pity everyone.

That is, the idea of ​​religiosity is as follows: in any of your conditions you know for sure: you are loved and understood. It helps a lot in hard life on Earth, where it is impossible to live without ever stumbling, and if you have lived without ever stumbling, then there are very big suspicions that you lived like a bastard … (Recall the parable of the publican and the Pharisee).

And the idea of ​​religiosity (or secular humanism) is this: a person should imitate the Almighty. That is, a person should also try to love and understand as much as possible. Despite the merits.

How should a Woman talk to a Man, if she respects him? What special words should pronounce? Yes, no special words … However …

In my opinion, the poet Arseniy Tarkovsky said this best of all, in “First Dates” – the famous soundtrack to “The Mirror”.

You woke up and transformed
The daily human dictionary.
And speech up to the neck with full-bodied force
filled up. And the word “you” revealed
Its new meaning meant “King” …

Well, we have no kings now. The president is a hired manager. All OK. But I don’t want the word “you” in the given context to mean “hired manager” …

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