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Gaseous people

In nature, a substance exists in three states: in solid, liquid, and in gaseous. (There is still plasma, but to present this in the logic of my metaphor is already higher than my strength).

And in psychology there is such a metaphor that people also come in three types: solid, liquid and … gaseous. I’ll explain now.

Just imagine a solid. Supposedly they brought him into the room. Where they put it (put it), there it lies (stands). Doesn’t bother anyone.

But the substance is liquid. He needs special conditions – a tank, a cup. Throw this cup over – and your substance spreads across the floor, and you collect it with rags, and the parquet is gone. But if there is a strong cup for him with a lid, then you can not worry. Where he put it – it’s there, it doesn’t take up much space.

Another thing is a gaseous substance. As you know from the course of school physics, molecules of any gas are famous for the fact that they immediately evenly distribute themselves throughout the volume of the room in which they find themselves, occupying this room – WHOLE.

There are gaseous people.

Wherever they go, there are many at once everywhere. You feel them at any end of the room, and sometimes … on the planet.

Living with such gaseous people nearby is unbearable. Just because it is impossible to stay alone for a single moment and go about your business. Such gaseous people always constrain others with their exorbitant claims to the amenities and quality of life.

In the old days, people when they were children were brought up following two rules:

Do not complain about life.
Eat what they give.
In essence, the education of an aristocrat was reduced to these two formulas. Because aristocrats, they were historically who? That’s right – warriors. Well, from a young age, a warrior needs to be accustomed to the idea that he will spend the best and glorious years of his life in a military campaign, on a bivouac, on a folding folding bed, in Spartan life. And before feeding and washing himself, he will have to feed and wash his people (for whom he is responsible as a leader), and then his horse.

When the class aristocrats degenerated, their place was taken by a layer of intelligentsia – the aristocrats of the spirit. And they continued to educate them in the good old patriarchal Moscow exactly according to the same rules:

Do not dare to notice life.
Eat what they give.
No matter how securely these families live and no matter how many opportunities they have. For they knew that in society nothing lasts forever, only your personal character is constant.

Our idea of ​​aristocrats as men in silk, with the appetite of grouse eating is a caricature that has nothing to do with historical truth.

Of course, any mother’s heart will be shed with blood if someone will bring her childish motherhood in Spartan way, depriving them of sweet pieces.

Therefore, knowing this natural female peculiarity (for loving a child to death), society ruthlessly pulled out a child who had reached primary school age from the stuffy embrace of the “loving” his matron. He pulled out and sent to a closed school, where he was, of course, in a bad mood. But it was bad for him according to the principle – hard in learning, easy in battle.

This style of education could be created in the home walls. It was enough to observe these two conditions:

Do not dare to notice life.
Eat what they give.
Natalia Trauberg, a famous translator and religious philosopher, calls this parenting style Christian. So in childhood she was brought up by joint efforts: a noblewoman – a grandmother and an illiterate peasant – a nanny. So, Natalya Trauberg comes to the conclusion, this style of upbringing is the superelevation.

This parenting style reduced the number of gaseous people in society. Demanding, picky people, people screaming loudly about their rights.

Such people who are the ideal construct of the Consumer Society. That is – Ideal Consumers.

Those whose hand is written along and across the Complicated Book of the Universe. Those who know by heart all the phones of the Consumer Rights Protection Society. Who wins high-profile processes about spilled milk from corporations … Who firmly knows how much and where there are more discounts.

And it all starts in childhood …

Try-how to “hand over” a modern child for at least three days into the wrong hands! This, once a simple task, now – from the unreal!

The modern child will need to attach detailed instructions in ten volumes: what, how, how many spoons, and what hours he eats. What can never be given to him (the doctor forbade it). Why, for any treasures of the world, he himself will not eat (he does not like, chick).

How many minutes does he need to cook a sausage. What t-shirt should he wear if one cloud appeared in the sky. What sweatshirt to pry if there are already clouds in the sky – two.

What cartoon to put, how to cover with a blanket, from what plate and under what song to feed, if naughty …

Oh my god, what gaseous children we have!

In former times, the infants – the offspring of emperors did not occupy so much space in the house. And even that is true, because they were prepared not to consume them. They were prepared – to manage.

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