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The secret of raising a child winner: once again about the main thing

Initially, a comic test of psychology. Do you know the fairy tale “Golden Key” by Alexei Tolstoy? If you answered no, then you do not exist. Well, if the fairy tale “Golden Key” is familiar to you, then why haven’t you still extracted the main moral from it? “What is the main moral?” You ask.

And the main morality is reduced to the answer to the question of how to raise a winner in your child, without having any material means. Few of us can boast that at his cradle stood a dozen good fairies with valuable gifts at the ready. Who is Paris Hilton here? Raise your hands. Who needs Paris Hilton at all! Pinocchio’s wooden boy is another matter – it’s more interesting with him, isn’t it? And we all can learn how he emerged victorious from a deliberately losing story.

The fairy tale “Golden Key” is a novel of raising a child, albeit wooden. There was such a genre in Western European literature. And he enjoyed great success with the reader precisely because he contained detailed instructions on how to survive in a world that was not very friendly to humans.

The step-by-step instruction from Papa Carlo on how to educate his children contains only two points – Papa Carlo was just a carpenter, not an official of the Ministry of Education. But what are these two points!

Point One how to raise a child. Leave your child alone!
Especially if you can’t give him anything materially. Morality weighs (but by no means good!) Solely when it stands behind a steel mill reading the moral of daddy. And the prospect of losing him, in case of disobedience, acts on the child stronger than quotes from the Gospel.

If you do not have money, morality is ineffective. That’s good. Because morality, backed up by money, gives such a bunch of side effects with dubious benefits for the body that it simply destroys many innocent children, turning them into drug addicts and rooters. But is it somehow necessary to raise a child?

Is there any alternative to reading morality? There is, and it is called the formation of character in action. As a matter of fact, before the invention of humanistic education, the only way children were brought up. Someone brought up by a military campaign and hunting, someone – a shoemaker – with a block, someone a baker – with a frying pan, and someone and a thief – with a stuffed gentleman, with bells in a frock coat – so that not one rings. The formation of character in action is the triumph of practice over blind theory. If a naughty child objects to a parent, will he be able to object the same thing to a life that will collapse in all its stunning beauty?

Point two how to raise a child. Think of your child’s weaknesses as virtues
In other words, believe in your child! Instead of redoing “in the image and likeness” of a certain ideal, develop and improve the qualities given to him by nature. Turn weaknesses into virtues. Do not fight his fate.

Unlike animals, we never know who is born in humans. A cat has kittens, a pig has piglets. Their destiny is clear. But a person can get anything – he is great and unpredictable in his uncertainty. Therefore, if your child scratches and meows, then most likely you have a kitten. Therefore, do not call him a “cute frog” and learn to dive in a puddle.

Where do the “mediocre” kittens come from? Is it not from parents who are trying to accustom them to water, instead of giving freedom to spend hours tracking the mouse near its mink?

Papa Carlo allowed the Pinocchio boy to be himself – left him alone. But Pinocchio, as a genuine Italian adventurer – a guy with a dubious ancestry – conquered the world, going through mistakes and trials.

“- Well, you, well, you, Pinocchio? – they asked everyone. – Who do you want to be at the theater?
“Eccentrics, in the comedy I will play myself and become famous all over the world!”

Actually, the given model of education is typically paternal. Leave the child alone with the world and see what happens. Who knows how the Golden Key fairy tale would have developed if Pinnokio had not a dad, but a big Italian mom? Ugh, it’s scary to even imagine such a thing!

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