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This art-therapeutic technique is least of all oriented towards schoolchildren and students who have low motivation to receive education and good grades.
This art-therapeutic technique is understood by the term “training”, training in the broadest (and add – high) sense, and works the same way – broadly. So, to a greater extent, this psychotherapeutic technique concerns adults and their reluctance to Learn, to be Open to Life Lessons, and so on.

But do not rush to be disappointed, dear parents of complex children and teachers of complex students!

Having worked with this technique yourself, you will understand something that will give you an approach to your children who do not remember a paragraph on geography. After all, the question (I repeat) is about Studying in the MOST broad sense of the word, which means that since the meaning is wide, it also covers such narrow things as poor grades and unwillingness to study and go to university (to school).

Reluctance to go to university is a trifle compared to the global problem (typical for both adults and kids) – the problem of unwillingness to kindly look at the surrounding world and SEE it.

So let’s get started. First, as always, the introductory theoretical part explaining the position of the psychotherapist, then the art-therapeutic technique itself. And then it is immediately incomprehensible: why is it so tricky to work with pencils in your hands? .. What do they want from us? ..

Here is your first idea for reflection
Human life is reminiscent of a graph on which you can clearly see some constant recessions. These recessions are a decrease in learning ability. If they are not stopped in time, the “chart will fall”, drawing subsequent bursts already from a lower mark, then it will fall again, and then it will reach zero — premature insanity.

Psychology dealt with this problem and found out its main cause. The reason is not a lack of vitamins, although this may also be the case.

The reason is not in the wrong upbringing (we examined these reasons in the article “The Dragon of Stubbornness”), although this, of course, is fraught with considerable evil.

The reason that makes the problem of lowering learning aids very simple and understandable is this:

Learning means giving
This is the second idea for you to think about.
Paradox? Did you think learning is the ability to receive? Not! As soon as we understand the true meaning of this paradox, we will understand everything else.

So, paradoxical as it sounds,

Learning is the ability to bestow.
For the perception of a new, unknown, difficult and untested requires:

the ability to surrender to the hands of a more knowledgeable person than we, a teacher,
surrender to the flow of new circumstances
give your time
your strength
their misconceptions and past opinions,
our confidence that we “have almost understood everything in this life” and “we can do a lot with” 5 “”
to give to those people, theories and books, who will begin to spend these Our Time and Strength at our discretion, and our Old Beliefs and Confidence – will ridicule, tear to rags and show where the trash can is, where we will have to take them with humility, clicking foot pedal always sticking …

Psychology theoretically generalizes all this complex variety of feelings and calls it in one word: the ability to GIVE.

So think after this that study is the ability to “receive”! .. Whatever the case, everything is exactly the opposite. Do you agree now?

Now ask yourself the following question: What kind of person is able to give?

Here is what psychologists say about this:

“Only the person who feels that he has already received a lot is capable of giving.” (Though, perhaps, in fact, this does not look so!)

Psychologists noticed: a person who is offended by life and feels that he was “underworked” will reject any offers to learn something as excessive requirements! ”

This huge army of people lives under a bad slogan:

the world owes me.
We will not blame these people, because we ourselves are so. Our exercise was invented in order to mitigate the consequences of previous negative experiences that led a person to such a problem.

Of the “neurotics resentful of life,” we (with the help of psychotherapy techniques) will make people who are confident that:

the world treats them fairly, therefore
they can afford to be interested and curious and
joyfully learning something new.
Well, now, to the exercise.

You – the Leader, should in a simple and understandable form explain to the assembled group (friends, relatives, children, students) everything that you have just read above in your own words.

And then, handing out paper, pens and colored pencils to the group, tell the following “legend” that precedes the creative task, preferably close to the text.

In order to survive in this world, a person is given a willingness to learn.

This is what helps us both live and survive.

We all know periods when we did not have problems with training. And we all know situations that cause us fierce resistance to the desire to learn – from books, from life. Other people.

Thus, each of us survived the Golden Age, when it was easy and pleasant to study.

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