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Crisis and children: time to make the right decision

In a crisis, all workers are scared of the worst – dismissal. But let’s figure it out, is the devil so terrible as he is painted? Losing a job is really the worst thing that can happen to you?

If you are a very young specialist, then the loss of one job is immediately compensated by finding a new one – as a rule, much more interesting. Here, at least the effect of novelty will work. And when this work gets bored, you will find a new one. I’ll tell you a secret – young employees are needed by everyone and always, even, and especially in a crisis. Why, you ask?

Yes, not because you are so good, but because you are so … stupid. Once, one of my friends, when she was her naive student, the department, which she craved for attention, offered the position of laboratory assistant. I note that some students dream of working in their favorite department, as Soviet boys dreamed of running away to the front in order to “fight with the Germans”. And so – they take … But my friend’s dad, the head of the department himself, told her this: “Don’t think about it. Squeezed out and thrown away. This is an old practice. ”

How does a young employee work? He is affable and friendly, he has not yet lost the optimism, energy, health and illusions inherent in youth. He does someone else’s work, because the request of the elders is the law for him. What does he eat during the working day? chocolates and pepsi cola. He does not need to feed his family, on the contrary, this family feeds him, giving him money to travel to the place of work.

The young specialist lives on the illusions of career growth in a company that sheltered him, not realizing that people like him have long been used to squeeze free juices. After a person experiences the first mild attack of gastritis or ideas arise to live at least as a civilian, but by marriage, the person becomes thoughtful, begins to delve deeper into his rights and ceases to be interesting to the employer. Why do we need a blacksmith? We do not need a blacksmith.

But among us there are those people who are forced to be torn between work and the already existing, real family in which the child grows. Such people are most afraid of losing their jobs in a crisis. And, unfortunately, it is precisely such people who are terrorized by employers, manipulating their fears of not feeding their children. This article is addressed primarily to you, dear parents.

Everyone constantly says that a crisis, any crisis, is a rare opportunity to ask myself the question: “Have I been going there all this time?” And if that, take action in time. Only during crises (personal and global) do the values ​​that you are guided by habit pass the verification of authenticity.

The whole Western world is preoccupied with a global problem – the problem of working parents. A study recently conducted by professors John Ermisch and Marco Francesconi of the University of Essex showed this. If a mother, having a child aged from one to five years, works full time, then her child is rarely an excellent student.

To be more precise, this child will experience simply learning problems. Researchers cannot say directly, ethics do not allow them, they speak in a veiled way, but so that everyone understands. It’s not about grades at school! We are talking about difficulties with perception, concentration, memory and socialization in the team.

Further more. Leave school alone. Many normal parents do not drive their children there at all. But these same children (whose mothers worked when they were one to five years old) suffer more in puberty (adolescence). And how teenagers in puberty (and their parents with them) suffer, it’s not for me to tell you. When these same children grow up completely, then another failure awaits them – now when trying to get a job. Here are three problems associated with the first five years of life: learning difficulties, difficult transitional age, problems with employment.

Scientists note that neither dear nanny, nor grandmother, nor advanced kindergarten are substitutes for maternal presence in these first five years. That is, everything that an advanced socially oriented society (“scientific” kindergarten) can offer you and everything that your financial opportunities can offer you (super-nanny) is wasted, it does not cure the problem …

Naturally, Western society, which was not used to indifferently observing the irrational use of funds, but simply, the leakage of money into the pipe, sounded the alarm. They spend money on pre-school education, in a particular case they hire nannies, and all that a child needs with a living mother is to have her mother nearby. So simple and so difficult for our society, which has long lived beyond the laws of nature.

The British have calculated what losses this will bring in the future. Indeed, now working mother managers are raising children who in twenty years will enter the labor market. Specialists call this generation “children of working mothers” and are afraid that because of its second-rate quality, it will do a disservice to the national economy.

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