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What are the nightmares talking about

Do you believe in dreams? Know how to interpret them? Are you afraid of nightmares? I haven’t asked all the questions yet! Have you ever happened to say this phrase: “All men are scum”? And agree with her quietly and to yourself?

So, if in life you have often come across such a philosophy and share it yourself, do not be offended if a black-black person comes to you in dreams and begins to “nightmare” you for breaking the harmony commanded by man from above, for that you put the sticks in the wheels of the Creator and yourself destroy the possibility of personal happiness. This black man is called Animus, to use the terms of Carl Jung. Animus, however, is not a black man – he can be different, for example, a bright and joyful prince or a young man in the guise of St. George. It becomes black when we blacken: from malice, envy, having strayed from the right path.

First, briefly about what Animus is and why it is black, negative. Animus is one of the main archetypes of the founder of analytical psychology – Carl Gustav Jung. Jung, in several other terms, developed the old Plato myth that each person (the broken half) carries the memory of androgyny – bisexuality. Only the half of the opposite sex that was separated from us is transferred by Jung into the unconscious and there she doesze, appearing in images of dreams and implicitly influencing human behavior.

Thus, the male figure in the unconscious woman is Animus. Jung also called him that: “an innate counter-sexual personality double.” But Animus (as, by the way, and Anima for men) can manifest itself in both positive and negative aspects. Simply put: there are women who in a dream is the Great Prince or the Unicorn with big eyes, and there are those to whom in a dream comes the Death Demon or a spider with twenty legs. But there are those who have seen in their lives both options.

Every time in a dream we meet a mysterious stranger who is clearly of the opposite sex to us – we communicate with our Animus (men communicate with our Anime). The current state of this antipode shows us whether it is good for us, whether we are comfortable right now in our gender role. How is it, female happiness? How is it, manhood?

Negative Animus appears to women when they are uncomfortable in their female role, when they fail as women.

Some dream-insensitive individuals face their negative Animus in a completely different way. He finds his embodiment not in their dreams, but directly in their body, and then the woman begins to acquire masculine traits, masculine behavior, moreover, according to the most negative “masculine” scenario that only exists in her head.

In fact, if you carefully read the works of the Jungians – everything is much more complicated, but one thing is true: the crooked ideas about men turn women into crooked non-men and give them nightmares.

Fear of the opposite sex is in other words expressed distrust of oneself – lack of harmony, integrity according to Jung. We are not talking about an indifferent or calm attitude towards the opposite sex – it is about fear, distrust and other attributes of Aversion …

A Jungian psychologist will immediately draw a portrait of a woman who has fallen into the power of the negative Animus: “Obsessed with Animus, dogmatic, fanatical, frigid and inflexible.”

Who is to blame for this plot development?

According to Jung’s theory, for every person, Animus (Anima) are formed from three sources.

The first source is the collective cultural ideas about Man-as-such – an inherited image;

The second source is personal experience of communication with significant representatives of the opposite sex;

The third source is an unchanging, constant image that is born with a person, “the second half of his soul.”

One of the sources may be poisoned, and the image formed from this source may come into conflict with reason and worldly experience. The constant image that is born with a person is always pure – you just need to break through to it, through layers of cultural layers and personal past.

In fact, Animus (like Anima, and the other archetypes described by Jung) is a powerful creative resource. You need to be friends with him, you do not need to be afraid of him. It needs to be understood … especially when it comes in a dream in the form of a monster. All he wants to say is: “That’s what you did to me! Did we really want that? ”

In order to clearly imagine what Animus is and why it is needed, imagine such a story.

Once upon a time there was a princess who had everything, but there was not only a mirror that would tell the truth. She did not know what she looked like, whether she combed her hair evenly — all the mirrors in the kingdom showed some nonsense — from morning to evening. Also, the princess could not find out what her actions were – she did not believe the flattery of the courtiers. But the princess had a nanny, and the nanny brought her a portrait of the Prince instead of a true mirror. Only the image in this portrait was different each time. Sometimes the Princess saw a vile toad, sometimes a bloodthirsty robber.

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