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How to attract a husband to raise a child

My children were interesting to me even before birth, I prepared as seriously as possible for their birth. However, more often, children under 3 years old are really not very interested: men are interested in raising children, not just raising them. Just messing with the children is not theirs; they are more often carried away by the role of the Model and Teacher. Yes, they help little at this time, and if this is accompanied by reproaches, the young dad will continue to stay away from the child. But if an intelligent woman emphasizes that her husband does not deal with the child as often as she does, but is much wiser than her, she knows how to stop crying, whims and tantrums, in which case the man will want to engage in education faster. Women, be wise Suns!

If the husband does not want to engage in the upbringing of his child, most often the reason is not in his attitude to the child, but in his relationship with his wife. Dear ones, do you manage to be friends of your husbands? Are there interesting and warm conversations between you? Do you have a great relationship? I do not believe that with an excellent relationship, the husband will not want to deal with the child. He will still take your child from you, because it is his beloved child.
Unfortunately, the situation is often more difficult. As soon as the woman became pregnant, all her attention is now to herself and the unborn child, she does not care about the man. Especially when the baby was born – the man aside. No sex, no respect, she was a mother, now she has become the Mother of God. He ceases to be the master of the family, now everything is subordinate to the child, and he is also criticized: “You do not know how to handle children at all! Well, how do you keep him?” And then, when the man was removed, driven into a corner and criticized, they will be dissatisfied with him demanding: “Go get busy with the child.” Well, there will not be such an offended and offended man to deal with a child. Of course, a serious and strong man simply will not allow such an attitude to himself, he will build a wife, and the right relationship, but there are not many such men. Therefore, no matter how difficult, the task of a woman to take care not so much of a child as of a man. Only in this case, the man begins to take care of the family. Establish and maintain relationships with your husband, more often emphasize that he is the head of the family. You can turn to him for help: “Listen, I’m raising a woman, and you need your son to have a male upbringing. Will you help me? Only a man can do it! I won’t manage without you … ”Yes, a man will be pleased to hear such a thing, and in this case, the man will definitely begin to deal with his children.

A child plays when he is interested. Men are the same children, and for them to play with their children, we need to make this interesting for them. And you need to start with positive pictures. That is, when the husband comes home, you need to meet him not as usual with complaints about the child, but rather with a joyful and enthusiastic person. Tell him with a satisfied smile: “Honey, look, and my son is all in you, today he has done so much! Look, what kind of car was made of plasticine, what a castle it was made of cubes! They drove football with the boys, you have no idea how fun it was! ” The father will like this, he will often begin to join in the game with the child.

But there may be another reason why a man is not keen on his child: sometimes he simply does not know what to do with him. In this situation, the stories will not help, here you need not a story, but a show. A man needs to show what games and how to play with his child: how to play toy soldiers, cars, ball. Oddly enough, often a woman knows better than men how to organize and run such games, and a man only needs to show it. Sometimes it’s worth asking: “Tell me, are we playing it right here?”, As a rule, a man in this case will want to correct you in something: fine, you actually needed this.
And then, when there is a feeling that the husband already knows what to do with the child, you can apply the following female trick, namely whisper in the baby’s ear: “Go, ask dad to play with you, or let him read a book”. And when the child asks for the pope, it is seldom which dad can not go to meet him. All that is left to the wife in this case is to rejoice and say to her husband: “Lord, what a caring dad you are! How wonderful it is for you! Thank you so much!”

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