Raising a boy
Boys and girls are different initially. Since childhood, girls prefer to play with dolls, outfits and relationships, boys are more interested in cars, construct something and fight. You can, of course, raise a girl from a boy, but – why? Probably a boy should be raised from a boy. A real man. But what is needed for this? How to do this, given that today there are a lot of like men, weak-willed, irresponsible and indecisive, ready to throw all problems onto women’s shoulders?
A man does not grow out of a boy by himself, and maternal love alone is not enough to form male features in a boy. A boy grows up as a man when he 1) sees a model of male behavior next to him, 2) when he is raised in a manly manner, according to “male patterns”, and 3) when a man is raised from him, not a rag.
At least they make a boy out of him, not a girl. A child is formed by culture, and if we want a boy to grow out of a child, and not a girl, our boys should have boys ‘clothes, not girls’ clothes and boys ‘clothes, not girls’ affairs and entertainments.
Unfortunately, today many fathers have a poor idea of how to raise their son. Books that emphasize the need for unconditional love, the danger of control and the importance of feelings in raising a child educate in a child not male, but female qualities. Today we have to remind you of what, in particular, consists of male education.
The foundations are laid in early childhood. I am very pleased that I drove my children into ice-cold water from the first days of their lives: they were not sick, freely rushed around the apartment naked and less worried about the constant “get dressed – you will freeze!” It is not discussed that a boy needs good sport since childhood. Baby – baby yoga, from a year to three – a home stadium, a fight with dad on the mat, accustoming to morning exercises.
The future man is able to bear the load and pain. If we raise a man, then we do not run to the baby when he fell and hit. Everything is fine: children fall, it hurts, there is no event. You don’t have to teach a little one that falling is something terrible, that any scratch is an occasion to hug him and regret it … If the kid hit and wants to be regretted, then the women have spoiled him a little. The kid, who is raised in a manly way, does not complain about his bruises, he solves his problems himself. The future man does not cry and does not complain.
But if he really needs help, the boy will calmly approach his father or mother and will certainly ask for help. He knows that you can always count on parental help. But if the parents tell him that “you can do it yourself!” – So, you need to train to tie your shoelaces as much as necessary.
In further sports and spiritual development, four points are absolutely obligatory: athletics, swimming, martial arts and dancing. We emphasize that it is ABSOLUTELY MANDATORY and that this is not only sports, but also spiritual development. Your son should overtake his peers in both running and jumping, and should be among the best in basketball, volleyball and swimming. Martial arts will instill in him courage in the fight, self-discipline, respect for the enemy, will develop in him the will and self-awareness of the future leader: he will not be among those who are constantly beaten. Moreover, percussion techniques that are mastered in martial arts are the basis for the formation of the skills of a leader and an entrepreneur in it. It is from the athletes that a large number of the most successful business people come out, and the choice of sport for the guy is the laying of the foundation of his future personal qualities.
As for dancing, this is also an obligatory part of the education of an officer in the army of any country. Firstly, dancing is another form of sport, and sport is not easy: to keep your posture, not to lower your elbows, to feel a partner and hear music is not an easy task. But it is dances that make sport sport to beauty and gallantry, bring up from the boy the future attentive gentleman, not only a bumpkin and a male. It is dances that will form your son’s format: the wonderful foundation of his success and his mastery of himself, the foundation of his self-discipline. About what a format is and why a man without it is not a man, read for example here …
At the same time, it is clear that the future man is not formed by dancing and sports.
The future man is not a coward. He is not afraid to fall asleep alone in a dark room, he is not afraid to intercede for his own people, much less for a girl, he is not afraid. He is called brave and courageous. This does not mean that he is not familiar with the feeling of fear, it means that a man can be stronger than his “I’m afraid – I’m not afraid” and can be guided by the concept of male duty. Your son’s dictionary should not contain the words “I’m afraid” or “I’m scared,” there should only be a joint reflection with you: “Is this a matter of such risks or not.”
That is why the future man is not a cocky cock and not a reckless comrade who is easy to “take on weakly” and who often himself, for the sake of thrills, is ready to take risks without need: this is stupidity and irresponsibility.