Yelling or not yelling at children
Do you have the right to yell at children when tearing off? Reading my latest materials, you, the Reader, might think that I urge everyone to blow dust off their…

Continue reading →

Parenting is easy, or the Golden Rules for Parents
The participants of our trainings asked us to collect the main thing that smart parents should remember and know. We smiled and wrote. If you are not only smart, but…

Continue reading →

A medicine called “Listen”
The great psychotherapist Carl Rogers made a very big contribution to the development of not only his industry - psychology, but also managed to greatly change our world. Do you…

Continue reading →

that because

How to wean a child to cry for no reason

I have been working at school with children of primary school age for more than 20 years. I have accumulated many different school stories about difficulties in raising children and ways to overcome these difficulties, which may be useful to parents, teachers, and psychologists.
I want to share one such story. She happened to a girl, let her name be Tanya, like the girl from the children’s poem Agnia Barto, who wept loudly.
Tanya came to school armed with 1000 and another 1 way of manipulation. Therefore, she did not develop friendly relations with classmates and with me. Why everyone suffered: I, and the children, and Tanya herself. Mom came to school and asked what was wrong, why the children did not want to be friends …
To make my life easier, I began to teach Tanya a little bit of rationalization and constructive Continue reading

Throw a bowl of cookies!
I speak with parents of preschool children and even older children: almost every first one mentions “problems with feeding” or “does not eat normal food”. Moreover, the children are different:…

...

Marriage ... Positive reframing
I’ll briefly recall what “positive reframing” is. Reframing is the brainchild of Peseshkian's positive psychotherapy, as well as behavioral psychotherapy and NLP. Reframing is such a purely linguistic (verbal) operation…

...

When the baby commands, or how to react to the children's cry, oh and crying
Elena asks: Good day! I’ve read many articles already, but I don’t find a suitable one ... Help, please. Second child, daughter 1 year 4 months. Her behavior torments everyone,…

...

What to do so that parental exactingness does not cause a child to protest?
The fact that parental exactingness is necessary, reasonable people understand, but many have a justifiable fear: Will the exactingness of parents cause a negative result in the long term? There…

...