The secret of raising a child winner: once again about the main thing
Initially, a comic test of psychology. Do you know the fairy tale “Golden Key” by Alexei Tolstoy? If you answered no, then you do not exist. Well, if the fairy…

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Children know everything, but do not. What to do?
This article is addressed to those parents who are not indifferent to their children and are thinking about how to properly educate them. Throughout my parenting experience (I have three…

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Five languages of love
In fact, of course, there are much more of them than the author of the popular books on psychology, Harry Chapman, singled out. But if you do not remember in…

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Marriage … Positive reframing

I’ll briefly recall what “positive reframing” is. Reframing is the brainchild of Peseshkian’s positive psychotherapy, as well as behavioral psychotherapy and NLP.

Reframing is such a purely linguistic (verbal) operation to reformulate one’s attitude to an event – from an unusually negative attitude to an unusually positive attitude. Reframing, therefore, provides a positive meaning in any event.

A special case of reframing is renaming. Some processes, things and phenomena need new “names”, as their old names carry a clearly negative meaning and are doomed from the very beginning.

This happens according to the principle – whatever you call a boat, it will sail. Continue reading

“There are no worthy men”

This psychological material is devoted to debunking the popular myth that there are no worthy men and other similarly structured formulations of myths that distract a person from the feat of self-improvement

Once the writer Maria Arbatova spoke very capaciously and to the point:

“When a woman says that there are no worthy men on the horizon, this is not a problem of their absence, but of her psychology. There are always more worthy men than you can fall in love with in one life.”

I remembered this thought, because it reminded me of another, expressed by Boris Pasternak and on a different, much more general reason: Continue reading

Mistress-Self, Mistress-Person: Psychological exercise for Lovers

Do not read popular female novels! In one overly popular female novel, I read one thought that was very harmful from my point of view. Here it is: “Yet they know that love alone is not enough, even very large. It is imperative that everyone still knows that you are loved and desired. ”
This was said in a fluent tone in the style of “everyone has long known that …”, and in that tone a harmful lie is usually thrown into the masses. Read a textbook of rhetoric, it’s just about that.

It turns out that love alone is not enough. It turns out that everyone needs to know that you are loved and desired.

I immediately asked the question: who needs to know everything?

After a short time, I myself gave an answer to it. Jungianism as old as the world … Person and Self. Continue reading

Instruction for the man (man)
Based on the basic, highly spiritual, we know that women expect from men - love, and men expect from women - RESPECT Oh, if people were issued instructions for use!…

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The baby cries: is it always necessary to twitch it?
In the beginning - briefly. What is the most important thing for mom? - Do not worry, get enough sleep and be calm. Do I need to be attentive to…

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Instruction for the man (man)
Based on the basic, highly spiritual, we know that women expect from men - love, and men expect from women - RESPECT Oh, if people were issued instructions for use!…

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Why and how to play role-playing games with children 3-7 years old
Preschoolers must always play role-playing and plot-role-playing games (the difference between these two concepts is well written here). A role-playing game is like a “recipe”, not only for teaching writing,…

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