I’ll briefly recall what “positive reframing” is. Reframing is the brainchild of Peseshkian’s positive psychotherapy, as well as behavioral psychotherapy and NLP.
Reframing is such a purely linguistic (verbal) operation to reformulate one’s attitude to an event – from an unusually negative attitude to an unusually positive attitude. Reframing, therefore, provides a positive meaning in any event.
A special case of reframing is renaming. Some processes, things and phenomena need new “names”, as their old names carry a clearly negative meaning and are doomed from the very beginning.
This happens according to the principle – whatever you call a boat, it will sail. Continue reading
This psychological material is devoted to debunking the popular myth that there are no worthy men and other similarly structured formulations of myths that distract a person from the feat of self-improvement
Once the writer Maria Arbatova spoke very capaciously and to the point:
“When a woman says that there are no worthy men on the horizon, this is not a problem of their absence, but of her psychology. There are always more worthy men than you can fall in love with in one life.”
I remembered this thought, because it reminded me of another, expressed by Boris Pasternak and on a different, much more general reason: Continue reading
Do not read popular female novels! In one overly popular female novel, I read one thought that was very harmful from my point of view. Here it is: “Yet they know that love alone is not enough, even very large. It is imperative that everyone still knows that you are loved and desired. ”
This was said in a fluent tone in the style of “everyone has long known that …”, and in that tone a harmful lie is usually thrown into the masses. Read a textbook of rhetoric, it’s just about that.
It turns out that love alone is not enough. It turns out that everyone needs to know that you are loved and desired.
I immediately asked the question: who needs to know everything?
After a short time, I myself gave an answer to it. Jungianism as old as the world … Person and Self. Continue reading