When does Mature Love come?
There is a popular opinion, confirmed by experts, that first love and first (early) marriages - always fall apart. Why is that? Let's try to find out. To answer this…

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How to educate schoolchildren
Our hero is known as the pioneer of practical psychology for a Russian audience. Doctor of Psychology, Professor Nikolai Ivanovich Kozlov has been managing the Sinton training center, the oldest…

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Learning problems
This art-therapeutic technique is least of all oriented towards schoolchildren and students who have low motivation to receive education and good grades. This art-therapeutic technique is understood by the term…

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Mother? Or a woman?

The psychological mistake of changing roles: modern women, building relationships with the chosen man, try to become a real Woman for their man, and become a real Mother

or psychological mistake of role reversal

Psychologists say that women themselves, with their own hands, are able to fatally destroy their personal happiness even at the foundation stage, while thinking that they behave well and act according to the instructions …

In all the variety of psychological errors in relationships (which both women and men make), I want to single out one often made by women and talk about it.

Psychologists give such a metaphor for ideal relationships: “In ideal harmonious relationships, as in ballroom dancing, one partner always leads, and the second follows him closely!” Continue reading

Marriage … Positive reframing

I’ll briefly recall what “positive reframing” is. Reframing is the brainchild of Peseshkian’s positive psychotherapy, as well as behavioral psychotherapy and NLP.

Reframing is such a purely linguistic (verbal) operation to reformulate one’s attitude to an event – from an unusually negative attitude to an unusually positive attitude. Reframing, therefore, provides a positive meaning in any event.

A special case of reframing is renaming. Some processes, things and phenomena need new “names”, as their old names carry a clearly negative meaning and are doomed from the very beginning.

This happens according to the principle – whatever you call a boat, it will sail. Continue reading

“There are no worthy men”

This psychological material is devoted to debunking the popular myth that there are no worthy men and other similarly structured formulations of myths that distract a person from the feat of self-improvement

Once the writer Maria Arbatova spoke very capaciously and to the point:

“When a woman says that there are no worthy men on the horizon, this is not a problem of their absence, but of her psychology. There are always more worthy men than you can fall in love with in one life.”

I remembered this thought, because it reminded me of another, expressed by Boris Pasternak and on a different, much more general reason: Continue reading

Children know everything, but do not. What to do?
This article is addressed to those parents who are not indifferent to their children and are thinking about how to properly educate them. Throughout my parenting experience (I have three…

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The whole truth about people suffering from addictions and their loved ones
The topic of addictions is one of the most painful topics. Families in which this problem exists is not a joke. But science, psychology does not stand still, it develops,…

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Parental bans
They say that children can’t forbid anything ... (These are humanists and “Spokovites”) They say that children should be kept in tight rein. (These are traditionalists). Let them say ...…

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For the wife - happiness. For a husband, misfortune ...
Throw three coins six times and write down the result. Eagle. Eagle. Tails are a long solid line. Tails. Tails. The eagle is an intermittent line symbolizing the female bosom.…

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