What to do so that parental exactingness does not cause a child to protest?
The fact that parental exactingness is necessary, reasonable people understand, but many have a justifiable fear: Will the exactingness of parents cause a negative result in the long term? There…

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Learning problems
This art-therapeutic technique is least of all oriented towards schoolchildren and students who have low motivation to receive education and good grades. This art-therapeutic technique is understood by the term…

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I have older children taking care of younger ones
I raised two sons, they already have three children each, and the most important rule in the family was: the older ones take care of the younger ones, and the…

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Reinforcement in parenting

Reinforcement is a prerequisite for any learning and training. The main rule: “What we reinforce is what we get.”

When parents approach the child, they reinforce the behavior that the child is doing at this time. If parents approach a small child when he smiles, take him in his arms when he reaches for them, talk with him when he walks with them – they will bring up a calm, cheerful, positive and loving child. If parents are very busy and approach the child only when he screams or describes himself, they educate someone who will cry and write more and more often.

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Bravo my dear

“It’s not you who decides where we are going. Parents decide, ”the French are strict in raising their children. The authority of the elders is unshakable. A child is not the “center of the Universe,” he adapts to the rules accepted in society: he and the adults line up in the store and in the toilet, calmly dine with his parents in a restaurant and are in no hurry to leave the table. Playrooms for children in restaurants are a rarity in France. Children are “little adults.” The words “hello”, “thank you” and “goodbye” are instilled in children from birth along with the words “mom” and “dad”.
French children, of course, play and play pranks, but when crossing the boundaries of what is permitted, any adult – whether one of the parents or an outsider in general – has the right to make a remark to the child. I was not very pleased when one day my neighbor took my son yelling all over the street to the side, Continue reading

For the wife – happiness. For a husband, misfortune …

Throw three coins six times and write down the result. Eagle. Eagle. Tails are a long solid line. Tails. Tails. The eagle is an intermittent line symbolizing the female bosom. The six traits drawn by the fortuneteller from the bottom – up (how to build a house), depending on the predominance of eagles and the tails of the coins that have fallen, are called a hexagram, from a hex – “six” and a gram – “I write”.

There are sixty-four in all. Sixty-four possible states of the universe – so simple …

But this is just an illusion that there are sixty-four of them, by the way. Connoisseurs of hexagrams assure that it is beyond human power to count their correct number, since at the time of divination (as at any other moment of being) one hexagram is always in action and, therefore, elusive. Continue reading

When a child lies to you
There are children who are inclined to lie, and there are children who are not inclined to lie. It seems that in many ways they are born like this: it…

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Marriage ... Positive reframing
I’ll briefly recall what “positive reframing” is. Reframing is the brainchild of Peseshkian's positive psychotherapy, as well as behavioral psychotherapy and NLP. Reframing is such a purely linguistic (verbal) operation…

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Tram People
Most recently, I met one amazing book. This is a practical guide to psychology, written not for scientists and psychology students, but for ordinary people. Simple, but not simple. Because…

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Persuasion is a waste of time
Marina, my wife and I, go to the park, and there is a stall from the church where they sell all kinds of prayed buns, etc. The tea is good…

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