For the wife - happiness. For a husband, misfortune ...
Throw three coins six times and write down the result. Eagle. Eagle. Tails are a long solid line. Tails. Tails. The eagle is an intermittent line symbolizing the female bosom.…

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15 parenting tips
1. In order for parenting to become a pleasant, useful, and expedient process for you, you must initially determine the endpoint of parenting and designate it with three epithets. What…

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How to build sensible obedience through an initiative
In this article, we summarize the research conducted by us, teachers at the Escalibur Camp camps. For several years now, we have been changing shifts in our children's camps. One…

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Psychotherapy is not

For the wife – happiness. For a husband, misfortune …

Throw three coins six times and write down the result. Eagle. Eagle. Tails are a long solid line. Tails. Tails. The eagle is an intermittent line symbolizing the female bosom. The six traits drawn by the fortuneteller from the bottom – up (how to build a house), depending on the predominance of eagles and the tails of the coins that have fallen, are called a hexagram, from a hex – “six” and a gram – “I write”.

There are sixty-four in all. Sixty-four possible states of the universe – so simple …

But this is just an illusion that there are sixty-four of them, by the way. Connoisseurs of hexagrams assure that it is beyond human power to count their correct number, since at the time of divination (as at any other moment of being) one hexagram is always in action and, therefore, elusive. Continue reading

Mother? Or a woman?

The psychological mistake of changing roles: modern women, building relationships with the chosen man, try to become a real Woman for their man, and become a real Mother

or psychological mistake of role reversal

Psychologists say that women themselves, with their own hands, are able to fatally destroy their personal happiness even at the foundation stage, while thinking that they behave well and act according to the instructions …

In all the variety of psychological errors in relationships (which both women and men make), I want to single out one often made by women and talk about it.

Psychologists give such a metaphor for ideal relationships: “In ideal harmonious relationships, as in ballroom dancing, one partner always leads, and the second follows him closely!” Continue reading

Marriage … Positive reframing

I’ll briefly recall what “positive reframing” is. Reframing is the brainchild of Peseshkian’s positive psychotherapy, as well as behavioral psychotherapy and NLP.

Reframing is such a purely linguistic (verbal) operation to reformulate one’s attitude to an event – from an unusually negative attitude to an unusually positive attitude. Reframing, therefore, provides a positive meaning in any event.

A special case of reframing is renaming. Some processes, things and phenomena need new “names”, as their old names carry a clearly negative meaning and are doomed from the very beginning.

This happens according to the principle – whatever you call a boat, it will sail. Continue reading

I have older children taking care of younger ones
I raised two sons, they already have three children each, and the most important rule in the family was: the older ones take care of the younger ones, and the…

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What to do so that parental exactingness does not cause a child to protest?
The fact that parental exactingness is necessary, reasonable people understand, but many have a justifiable fear: Will the exactingness of parents cause a negative result in the long term? There…

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I have older children taking care of younger ones
I raised two sons, they already have three children each, and the most important rule in the family was: the older ones take care of the younger ones, and the…

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Parent Automatic Responses
Remember, reading this list, that all these “typical answers” ​​are the exact opposite of the so-called ACTIVE LISTENING, the only type of communication between people who are alarmed by something,…

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