Developmental Psychology and the Divide and Conquer Principle
My friend, a psychologist-colleague, sitting at someone else's group seminar as a “supervision”, whispered to me somehow whimsically-pouted in my ear (as he generally likes to do this): “I don’t…

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Raising a boy
Boys and girls are different initially. Since childhood, girls prefer to play with dolls, outfits and relationships, boys are more interested in cars, construct something and fight. You can, of…

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Parental bans
They say that children can’t forbid anything ... (These are humanists and “Spokovites”) They say that children should be kept in tight rein. (These are traditionalists). Let them say ...…

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Psychotherapy is not

For the wife – happiness. For a husband, misfortune …

Throw three coins six times and write down the result. Eagle. Eagle. Tails are a long solid line. Tails. Tails. The eagle is an intermittent line symbolizing the female bosom. The six traits drawn by the fortuneteller from the bottom – up (how to build a house), depending on the predominance of eagles and the tails of the coins that have fallen, are called a hexagram, from a hex – “six” and a gram – “I write”.

There are sixty-four in all. Sixty-four possible states of the universe – so simple …

But this is just an illusion that there are sixty-four of them, by the way. Connoisseurs of hexagrams assure that it is beyond human power to count their correct number, since at the time of divination (as at any other moment of being) one hexagram is always in action and, therefore, elusive. Continue reading

Mother? Or a woman?

The psychological mistake of changing roles: modern women, building relationships with the chosen man, try to become a real Woman for their man, and become a real Mother

or psychological mistake of role reversal

Psychologists say that women themselves, with their own hands, are able to fatally destroy their personal happiness even at the foundation stage, while thinking that they behave well and act according to the instructions …

In all the variety of psychological errors in relationships (which both women and men make), I want to single out one often made by women and talk about it.

Psychologists give such a metaphor for ideal relationships: “In ideal harmonious relationships, as in ballroom dancing, one partner always leads, and the second follows him closely!” Continue reading

Marriage … Positive reframing

I’ll briefly recall what “positive reframing” is. Reframing is the brainchild of Peseshkian’s positive psychotherapy, as well as behavioral psychotherapy and NLP.

Reframing is such a purely linguistic (verbal) operation to reformulate one’s attitude to an event – from an unusually negative attitude to an unusually positive attitude. Reframing, therefore, provides a positive meaning in any event.

A special case of reframing is renaming. Some processes, things and phenomena need new “names”, as their old names carry a clearly negative meaning and are doomed from the very beginning.

This happens according to the principle – whatever you call a boat, it will sail. Continue reading

When the baby commands, or how to react to the children's cry, oh and crying
Elena asks: Good day! I’ve read many articles already, but I don’t find a suitable one ... Help, please. Second child, daughter 1 year 4 months. Her behavior torments everyone,…

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Developmental Psychology and the Divide and Conquer Principle
My friend, a psychologist-colleague, sitting at someone else's group seminar as a “supervision”, whispered to me somehow whimsically-pouted in my ear (as he generally likes to do this): “I don’t…

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Developmental Psychology and the Divide and Conquer Principle
My friend, a psychologist-colleague, sitting at someone else's group seminar as a “supervision”, whispered to me somehow whimsically-pouted in my ear (as he generally likes to do this): “I don’t…

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What we take for love
There is such a famous joke. An elderly professor returns home after a visit to the doctor and tells his wife: “Darling, what you and I have considered orgasm our…

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