Persuasion is a waste of time
Marina, my wife and I, go to the park, and there is a stall from the church where they sell all kinds of prayed buns, etc. The tea is good…

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Reinforcement in parenting
Reinforcement is a prerequisite for any learning and training. The main rule: “What we reinforce is what we get.” When parents approach the child, they reinforce the behavior that the…

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How to raise a successful person (E. Wojdicki)
When we learned that Mom was publishing a book, we decided that it was for us, her children, to write a preface about how it feels when your mother is…

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Psychotherapy is not

For the wife – happiness. For a husband, misfortune …

Throw three coins six times and write down the result. Eagle. Eagle. Tails are a long solid line. Tails. Tails. The eagle is an intermittent line symbolizing the female bosom. The six traits drawn by the fortuneteller from the bottom – up (how to build a house), depending on the predominance of eagles and the tails of the coins that have fallen, are called a hexagram, from a hex – “six” and a gram – “I write”.

There are sixty-four in all. Sixty-four possible states of the universe – so simple …

But this is just an illusion that there are sixty-four of them, by the way. Connoisseurs of hexagrams assure that it is beyond human power to count their correct number, since at the time of divination (as at any other moment of being) one hexagram is always in action and, therefore, elusive. Continue reading

Mother? Or a woman?

The psychological mistake of changing roles: modern women, building relationships with the chosen man, try to become a real Woman for their man, and become a real Mother

or psychological mistake of role reversal

Psychologists say that women themselves, with their own hands, are able to fatally destroy their personal happiness even at the foundation stage, while thinking that they behave well and act according to the instructions …

In all the variety of psychological errors in relationships (which both women and men make), I want to single out one often made by women and talk about it.

Psychologists give such a metaphor for ideal relationships: “In ideal harmonious relationships, as in ballroom dancing, one partner always leads, and the second follows him closely!” Continue reading

Marriage … Positive reframing

I’ll briefly recall what “positive reframing” is. Reframing is the brainchild of Peseshkian’s positive psychotherapy, as well as behavioral psychotherapy and NLP.

Reframing is such a purely linguistic (verbal) operation to reformulate one’s attitude to an event – from an unusually negative attitude to an unusually positive attitude. Reframing, therefore, provides a positive meaning in any event.

A special case of reframing is renaming. Some processes, things and phenomena need new “names”, as their old names carry a clearly negative meaning and are doomed from the very beginning.

This happens according to the principle – whatever you call a boat, it will sail. Continue reading

"We ate well today" or how to raise a neurotic from a child
Some mothers have such a habit of annoying normal people: talking about their child “WE”. The habit of saying so arises for a reason. She always goes hand in hand…

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How to attract a husband to raise a child
My children were interesting to me even before birth, I prepared as seriously as possible for their birth. However, more often, children under 3 years old are really not very…

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Family Psychology
Family psychology, relationship psychology explains: what is love, what is falling in love, what is a relationship of addiction, what is the search for the ideal partner, and what is…

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Five languages of love
In fact, of course, there are much more of them than the author of the popular books on psychology, Harry Chapman, singled out. But if you do not remember in…

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