I have been working at school with children of primary school age for more than 20 years. I have accumulated many different school stories about difficulties in raising children and ways to overcome these difficulties, which may be useful to parents, teachers, and psychologists.
I want to share one such story. She happened to a girl, let her name be Tanya, like the girl from the children’s poem Agnia Barto, who wept loudly.
Tanya came to school armed with 1000 and another 1 way of manipulation. Therefore, she did not develop friendly relations with classmates and with me. Why everyone suffered: I, and the children, and Tanya herself. Mom came to school and asked what was wrong, why the children did not want to be friends …
To make my life easier, I began to teach Tanya a little bit of rationalization and constructive Continue reading
“It’s not you who decides where we are going. Parents decide, ”the French are strict in raising their children. The authority of the elders is unshakable. A child is not the “center of the Universe,” he adapts to the rules accepted in society: he and the adults line up in the store and in the toilet, calmly dine with his parents in a restaurant and are in no hurry to leave the table. Playrooms for children in restaurants are a rarity in France. Children are “little adults.” The words “hello”, “thank you” and “goodbye” are instilled in children from birth along with the words “mom” and “dad”.
French children, of course, play and play pranks, but when crossing the boundaries of what is permitted, any adult – whether one of the parents or an outsider in general – has the right to make a remark to the child. I was not very pleased when one day my neighbor took my son yelling all over the street to the side, Continue reading
The topic of addictions is one of the most painful topics. Families in which this problem exists is not a joke. But science, psychology does not stand still, it develops, then it is science, in order to make new discoveries based on unhurried observations.
And in the last decade an almost revolutionary discovery has been made – the main problem is not created by the addicts themselves – they are just the ill-fated “obviously guilty”, on which it is convenient and logical to blame all possible accusations … The main problem is created by the independent, but the dependent, then there are their close people.
Now in the science of psychology, a person who suffers from the fact that someone close to him is ill with one or another addiction, such a person is closely regarded by psychologists as the most important patient in need of treatment in the first place.
Notice, not the drug addict needs treatment in the first place, but his “old sick mother with her lips blue Continue reading