How to attract a husband to raise a child
My children were interesting to me even before birth, I prepared as seriously as possible for their birth. However, more often, children under 3 years old are really not very…

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Marriage ... Positive reframing
I’ll briefly recall what “positive reframing” is. Reframing is the brainchild of Peseshkian's positive psychotherapy, as well as behavioral psychotherapy and NLP. Reframing is such a purely linguistic (verbal) operation…

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When the baby commands, or how to react to the children's cry, oh and crying
Elena asks: Good day! I’ve read many articles already, but I don’t find a suitable one ... Help, please. Second child, daughter 1 year 4 months. Her behavior torments everyone,…

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Persuasion is a waste of time

Marina, my wife and I, go to the park, and there is a stall from the church where they sell all kinds of prayed buns, etc. The tea is good there, and while we drink it, every minute mothers and children come up and want to feed their child. I am watching this. Have you seen how this happens? In 9 cases out of 10, all mothers with children 4-8 years old have the same scenario.
The same. Check, please!

Mom walks up to the stall with an alarming look, examines the shop window, at this time the child is idly looking anywhere. Now mother carefully turns to the child and asks with an interest: “Will you have this bun? It is tasty, with jam!”. A child looks past mom. Continue reading

How to wean a child to cry for no reason

I have been working at school with children of primary school age for more than 20 years. I have accumulated many different school stories about difficulties in raising children and ways to overcome these difficulties, which may be useful to parents, teachers, and psychologists.
I want to share one such story. She happened to a girl, let her name be Tanya, like the girl from the children’s poem Agnia Barto, who wept loudly.
Tanya came to school armed with 1000 and another 1 way of manipulation. Therefore, she did not develop friendly relations with classmates and with me. Why everyone suffered: I, and the children, and Tanya herself. Mom came to school and asked what was wrong, why the children did not want to be friends …
To make my life easier, I began to teach Tanya a little bit of rationalization and constructive Continue reading

Mistress-Self, Mistress-Person: Psychological exercise for Lovers

Do not read popular female novels! In one overly popular female novel, I read one thought that was very harmful from my point of view. Here it is: “Yet they know that love alone is not enough, even very large. It is imperative that everyone still knows that you are loved and desired. ”
This was said in a fluent tone in the style of “everyone has long known that …”, and in that tone a harmful lie is usually thrown into the masses. Read a textbook of rhetoric, it’s just about that.

It turns out that love alone is not enough. It turns out that everyone needs to know that you are loved and desired.

I immediately asked the question: who needs to know everything?

After a short time, I myself gave an answer to it. Jungianism as old as the world … Person and Self. Continue reading

When a child lies to you
There are children who are inclined to lie, and there are children who are not inclined to lie. It seems that in many ways they are born like this: it…

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Since my friend is doing better, I will not at all!
one day my son (8 years old) returned from swimming training in a gloomy mood. I began to ask questions and found out that the whole thing was in a…

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Mistress-Self, Mistress-Person: Psychological exercise for Lovers
Do not read popular female novels! In one overly popular female novel, I read one thought that was very harmful from my point of view. Here it is: “Yet they…

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What to do so that parental exactingness does not cause a child to protest?
The fact that parental exactingness is necessary, reasonable people understand, but many have a justifiable fear: Will the exactingness of parents cause a negative result in the long term? There…

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