Parental bans
They say that children can’t forbid anything ... (These are humanists and “Spokovites”) They say that children should be kept in tight rein. (These are traditionalists). Let them say ...…

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Parent Automatic Responses
Remember, reading this list, that all these “typical answers” ​​are the exact opposite of the so-called ACTIVE LISTENING, the only type of communication between people who are alarmed by something,…

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When the baby commands, or how to react to the children's cry, oh and crying
Elena asks: Good day! I’ve read many articles already, but I don’t find a suitable one ... Help, please. Second child, daughter 1 year 4 months. Her behavior torments everyone,…

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How to attract a husband to raise a child

My children were interesting to me even before birth, I prepared as seriously as possible for their birth. However, more often, children under 3 years old are really not very interested: men are interested in raising children, not just raising them. Just messing with the children is not theirs; they are more often carried away by the role of the Model and Teacher. Yes, they help little at this time, and if this is accompanied by reproaches, the young dad will continue to stay away from the child. But if an intelligent woman emphasizes that her husband does not deal with the child as often as she does, but is much wiser than her, she knows how to stop crying, whims and tantrums, in which case the man will want to engage in education faster. Women, be wise Suns! Continue reading

How to build sensible obedience through an initiative

In this article, we summarize the research conducted by us, teachers at the Escalibur Camp camps. For several years now, we have been changing shifts in our children’s camps. One of the key questions that is important when communicating and working with children is how to make them interested in doing something. How can parents and educators create interest and involvement in a child? This is what we, teachers, have come to on the basis of experience gained over almost a dozen shifts.

As you probably already guessed, this article will discuss the differences between such concepts of raising a child as obedience and initiative. On the one hand, each parent wants to see his daughter or his son obedient, disciplined. On the other hand, in order to be successful in a future life, it would be good for the child to be active and proactive. Under a lying stone, water does not flow, right? Continue reading

What to do so that parental exactingness does not cause a child to protest?

The fact that parental exactingness is necessary, reasonable people understand, but many have a justifiable fear: Will the exactingness of parents cause a negative result in the long term? There are reasons for concern: there are frequent cases when children, having escaped from parental care and pressure, start off “in all serious ways.” At first glance, this seems logical: demanding is pressure, pressure causes protest. And when the children enter an independent life, they begin to catch up with everything that was previously forbidden for them and violate everything that their parents inspired them.

Yes, it happens that children, having escaped from the parental family, seem to forget what they were taught! They stop making bed and go unkempt in the morning, start to stay up late and get up late, eat Continue reading

When does Mature Love come?
There is a popular opinion, confirmed by experts, that first love and first (early) marriages - always fall apart. Why is that? Let's try to find out. To answer this…

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Mistress-Self, Mistress-Person: Psychological exercise for Lovers
Do not read popular female novels! In one overly popular female novel, I read one thought that was very harmful from my point of view. Here it is: “Yet they…

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Mother? Or a woman?
The psychological mistake of changing roles: modern women, building relationships with the chosen man, try to become a real Woman for their man, and become a real Mother or psychological…

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Reinforcement in parenting
Reinforcement is a prerequisite for any learning and training. The main rule: “What we reinforce is what we get.” When parents approach the child, they reinforce the behavior that the…

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