How to wean a child to cry for no reason
I have been working at school with children of primary school age for more than 20 years. I have accumulated many different school stories about difficulties in raising children and…

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Parenting is easy, or the Golden Rules for Parents
The participants of our trainings asked us to collect the main thing that smart parents should remember and know. We smiled and wrote. If you are not only smart, but…

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When does Mature Love come?
There is a popular opinion, confirmed by experts, that first love and first (early) marriages - always fall apart. Why is that? Let's try to find out. To answer this…

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Neither praise

I have older children taking care of younger ones

I raised two sons, they already have three children each, and the most important rule in the family was: the older ones take care of the younger ones, and the younger ones obey the older ones. Roma is the youngest, and I always told him that his elder brother is the most important person for him, he should obey him like mom and dad, grandparents. And the eldest, Vadim, when we were left alone, always told how to behave, so that his younger brother respected him. Vadima never scolded under Roma, took care of his authority. But Roma did not have to scold, because to deal with him – this was the work of Vadim.
I loved communicating with my sons and tried to find games that would be of interest to them and useful to the family. The war game turned out to be very successful: I was usually a commander, and Vadim, as Continue reading

Raising a boy

Boys and girls are different initially. Since childhood, girls prefer to play with dolls, outfits and relationships, boys are more interested in cars, construct something and fight. You can, of course, raise a girl from a boy, but – why? Probably a boy should be raised from a boy. A real man. But what is needed for this? How to do this, given that today there are a lot of like men, weak-willed, irresponsible and indecisive, ready to throw all problems onto women’s shoulders?

A man does not grow out of a boy by himself, and maternal love alone is not enough to form male features in a boy. A boy grows up as a man when he 1) sees a model of male behavior next to him, 2) when he is raised in a manly manner, according to “male patterns”, and 3) when a man is raised from him, not a rag. Continue reading

Personality is built through body drawing.

If Chepyshny had been awakened even at night and asked what he wants more than anything, he would have said without hesitation: “Outrun Vikulainen!”

From the book “In our favor” – my favorite book about athletes
I respect everyone involved in sports because I know how tightly connected the body and personality. The personality is built primarily through the figure of the body, through the structure and character of the body, through the habits that are built into our body, that is, built into us.

Dear parents, be careful: choosing one or another sport for your children, you choose their character and fate. Long-distance skiing, like a sport, forms the psychology of a loner, who knows how through tension, to move on the same will to a goal that he always looks at from a bit of sullenness. Swimming less Continue reading

Breaking up a relationship as a way to overcome a conflict with a child
So, the situation with your child is at an impasse. You no longer know what to do - nothing helps. You have already explained to him a thousand times, “they…

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Parenting is easy, or the Golden Rules for Parents
The participants of our trainings asked us to collect the main thing that smart parents should remember and know. We smiled and wrote. If you are not only smart, but…

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Throw a bowl of cookies!
I speak with parents of preschool children and even older children: almost every first one mentions “problems with feeding” or “does not eat normal food”. Moreover, the children are different:…

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Tram People
Most recently, I met one amazing book. This is a practical guide to psychology, written not for scientists and psychology students, but for ordinary people. Simple, but not simple. Because…

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