Developmental Psychology and the Divide and Conquer Principle
My friend, a psychologist-colleague, sitting at someone else's group seminar as a “supervision”, whispered to me somehow whimsically-pouted in my ear (as he generally likes to do this): “I don’t…

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How to attract a husband to raise a child
My children were interesting to me even before birth, I prepared as seriously as possible for their birth. However, more often, children under 3 years old are really not very…

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A medicine called “Listen”
The great psychotherapist Carl Rogers made a very big contribution to the development of not only his industry - psychology, but also managed to greatly change our world. Do you…

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inherent in youth

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Reinforcement in parenting

Reinforcement is a prerequisite for any learning and training. The main rule: “What we reinforce is what we get.”

When parents approach the child, they reinforce the behavior that the child is doing at this time. If parents approach a small child when he smiles, take him in his arms when he reaches for them, talk with him when he walks with them – they will bring up a calm, cheerful, positive and loving child. If parents are very busy and approach the child only when he screams or describes himself, they educate someone who will cry and write more and more often.

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I have older children taking care of younger ones

I raised two sons, they already have three children each, and the most important rule in the family was: the older ones take care of the younger ones, and the younger ones obey the older ones. Roma is the youngest, and I always told him that his elder brother is the most important person for him, he should obey him like mom and dad, grandparents. And the eldest, Vadim, when we were left alone, always told how to behave, so that his younger brother respected him. Vadima never scolded under Roma, took care of his authority. But Roma did not have to scold, because to deal with him – this was the work of Vadim.
I loved communicating with my sons and tried to find games that would be of interest to them and useful to the family. The war game turned out to be very successful: I was usually a commander, and Vadim, as Continue reading

When the baby commands, or how to react to the children’s cry, oh and crying

Elena asks:

Good day! I’ve read many articles already, but I don’t find a suitable one … Help, please. Second child, daughter 1 year 4 months. Her behavior torments everyone, including herself. She, as it were, chooses a “friend” for herself and does not see or hear anyone else. If I (mom) are nearby, then this is definitely me. If I am not, then it can be any adult: dad, grandmother, grandfather, uncle … But someone alone. And to this “friend” kapets! She doesn’t leave the room (nor the toilet, will yell under the door; neither drink nor leave), she constantly “monitors” – in a second she will already notice that she has left. She doesn’t want to get up, she immediately asks for her hands, and if she immediately sits down, then she no longer needs her in her hands. If you tell her that you are going out, then here, with luck, as a rule, the horr begins with Continue reading

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Learning problems
This art-therapeutic technique is least of all oriented towards schoolchildren and students who have low motivation to receive education and good grades. This art-therapeutic technique is understood by the term…

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A medicine called “Listen”
The great psychotherapist Carl Rogers made a very big contribution to the development of not only his industry - psychology, but also managed to greatly change our world. Do you…

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Parent Automatic Responses
Remember, reading this list, that all these “typical answers” ​​are the exact opposite of the so-called ACTIVE LISTENING, the only type of communication between people who are alarmed by something,…

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Five languages of love
In fact, of course, there are much more of them than the author of the popular books on psychology, Harry Chapman, singled out. But if you do not remember in…

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