What we take for love
There is such a famous joke. An elderly professor returns home after a visit to the doctor and tells his wife: “Darling, what you and I have considered orgasm our…

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Marriage ... Positive reframing
I’ll briefly recall what “positive reframing” is. Reframing is the brainchild of Peseshkian's positive psychotherapy, as well as behavioral psychotherapy and NLP. Reframing is such a purely linguistic (verbal) operation…

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How to raise a successful person (E. Wojdicki)
When we learned that Mom was publishing a book, we decided that it was for us, her children, to write a preface about how it feels when your mother is…

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imaginary virtues

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How to build sensible obedience through an initiative

In this article, we summarize the research conducted by us, teachers at the Escalibur Camp camps. For several years now, we have been changing shifts in our children’s camps. One of the key questions that is important when communicating and working with children is how to make them interested in doing something. How can parents and educators create interest and involvement in a child? This is what we, teachers, have come to on the basis of experience gained over almost a dozen shifts.

As you probably already guessed, this article will discuss the differences between such concepts of raising a child as obedience and initiative. On the one hand, each parent wants to see his daughter or his son obedient, disciplined. On the other hand, in order to be successful in a future life, it would be good for the child to be active and proactive. Under a lying stone, water does not flow, right? Continue reading

What to do so that parental exactingness does not cause a child to protest?

The fact that parental exactingness is necessary, reasonable people understand, but many have a justifiable fear: Will the exactingness of parents cause a negative result in the long term? There are reasons for concern: there are frequent cases when children, having escaped from parental care and pressure, start off “in all serious ways.” At first glance, this seems logical: demanding is pressure, pressure causes protest. And when the children enter an independent life, they begin to catch up with everything that was previously forbidden for them and violate everything that their parents inspired them.

Yes, it happens that children, having escaped from the parental family, seem to forget what they were taught! They stop making bed and go unkempt in the morning, start to stay up late and get up late, eat Continue reading

Parenting is easy, or the Golden Rules for Parents

The participants of our trainings asked us to collect the main thing that smart parents should remember and know. We smiled and wrote. If you are not only smart, but also with a sense of humor, you should like these rules.
First, the main thing:

It’s easy to raise children if you are smart, and three or more children. It is always more difficult to raise two or one children. Make the right decisions!
Children must be dealt with by the children themselves. The system is simple: any junior obeys any senior. Each senior is fully and always responsible for any junior. All! Continue reading

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How to wean a child to cry for no reason
I have been working at school with children of primary school age for more than 20 years. I have accumulated many different school stories about difficulties in raising children and…

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Gaseous people
In nature, a substance exists in three states: in solid, liquid, and in gaseous. (There is still plasma, but to present this in the logic of my metaphor is already…

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What to do so that parental exactingness does not cause a child to protest?
The fact that parental exactingness is necessary, reasonable people understand, but many have a justifiable fear: Will the exactingness of parents cause a negative result in the long term? There…

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The secret of raising a child winner: once again about the main thing
Initially, a comic test of psychology. Do you know the fairy tale “Golden Key” by Alexei Tolstoy? If you answered no, then you do not exist. Well, if the fairy…

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