Reinforcement is a prerequisite for any learning and training. The main rule: “What we reinforce is what we get.”
When parents approach the child, they reinforce the behavior that the child is doing at this time. If parents approach a small child when he smiles, take him in his arms when he reaches for them, talk with him when he walks with them – they will bring up a calm, cheerful, positive and loving child. If parents are very busy and approach the child only when he screams or describes himself, they educate someone who will cry and write more and more often.
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I raised two sons, they already have three children each, and the most important rule in the family was: the older ones take care of the younger ones, and the younger ones obey the older ones. Roma is the youngest, and I always told him that his elder brother is the most important person for him, he should obey him like mom and dad, grandparents. And the eldest, Vadim, when we were left alone, always told how to behave, so that his younger brother respected him. Vadima never scolded under Roma, took care of his authority. But Roma did not have to scold, because to deal with him – this was the work of Vadim.
I loved communicating with my sons and tried to find games that would be of interest to them and useful to the family. The war game turned out to be very successful: I was usually a commander, and Vadim, as Continue reading
The fact that parental exactingness is necessary, reasonable people understand, but many have a justifiable fear: Will the exactingness of parents cause a negative result in the long term? There are reasons for concern: there are frequent cases when children, having escaped from parental care and pressure, start off “in all serious ways.” At first glance, this seems logical: demanding is pressure, pressure causes protest. And when the children enter an independent life, they begin to catch up with everything that was previously forbidden for them and violate everything that their parents inspired them.
Yes, it happens that children, having escaped from the parental family, seem to forget what they were taught! They stop making bed and go unkempt in the morning, start to stay up late and get up late, eat Continue reading