Parental bans
They say that children can’t forbid anything ... (These are humanists and “Spokovites”) They say that children should be kept in tight rein. (These are traditionalists). Let them say ...…

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Since my friend is doing better, I will not at all!
one day my son (8 years old) returned from swimming training in a gloomy mood. I began to ask questions and found out that the whole thing was in a…

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Tram People
Most recently, I met one amazing book. This is a practical guide to psychology, written not for scientists and psychology students, but for ordinary people. Simple, but not simple. Because…

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Reinforcement in parenting

Reinforcement is a prerequisite for any learning and training. The main rule: “What we reinforce is what we get.”

When parents approach the child, they reinforce the behavior that the child is doing at this time. If parents approach a small child when he smiles, take him in his arms when he reaches for them, talk with him when he walks with them – they will bring up a calm, cheerful, positive and loving child. If parents are very busy and approach the child only when he screams or describes himself, they educate someone who will cry and write more and more often.

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Developmental Psychology and the Divide and Conquer Principle
My friend, a psychologist-colleague, sitting at someone else's group seminar as a “supervision”, whispered to me somehow whimsically-pouted in my ear (as he generally likes to do this): “I don’t…

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A medicine called “Listen”
The great psychotherapist Carl Rogers made a very big contribution to the development of not only his industry - psychology, but also managed to greatly change our world. Do you…

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The secret of raising a child winner: once again about the main thing
Initially, a comic test of psychology. Do you know the fairy tale “Golden Key” by Alexei Tolstoy? If you answered no, then you do not exist. Well, if the fairy…

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Mistress-Self, Mistress-Person: Psychological exercise for Lovers
Do not read popular female novels! In one overly popular female novel, I read one thought that was very harmful from my point of view. Here it is: “Yet they…

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