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one day my son (8 years old) returned from swimming training in a gloomy mood. I began to ask questions and found out that the whole thing was in a friend. A friend achieved some outstanding results during training. The coach praised a friend. My son in that training was not even able to get close to the success of a friend. This was a real blow for his son.
As a result, the child made the following conclusion: I won’t go swimming anymore. It’s unpleasant to listen to the coach praising someone, and not you. A friend in everything is better than me, oh why so. How miserable I am, etc.
I confess that I reacted incorrectly at first. I got hooked on the topic of envy. I began to convince my son that “your friend is not better in everything,” that you will succeed too. The son listened to it all with a Continue reading
This article is addressed to those parents who are not indifferent to their children and are thinking about how to properly educate them. Throughout my parenting experience (I have three children, 4, 7 and 9 years old), I have been collecting bit by bit information about education – books, the Internet, and stories of experienced parents.
Gradually, I accumulated a solid baggage of knowledge, techniques and practical experience in interacting with children. Mostly it worked well, but sometimes there were crashes that I could not figure out. In this article I want to talk about one very important discovery that happened to me after attending a training for parents.
I came to the training with a fair amount of skepticism. By that time, I had a feeling that I knew about Continue reading
I’ll briefly recall what “positive reframing” is. Reframing is the brainchild of Peseshkian’s positive psychotherapy, as well as behavioral psychotherapy and NLP.
Reframing is such a purely linguistic (verbal) operation to reformulate one’s attitude to an event – from an unusually negative attitude to an unusually positive attitude. Reframing, therefore, provides a positive meaning in any event.
A special case of reframing is renaming. Some processes, things and phenomena need new “names”, as their old names carry a clearly negative meaning and are doomed from the very beginning.
This happens according to the principle – whatever you call a boat, it will sail. Continue reading